Well, he’s already shown that he’s OK with cheating. So I’m not sure anyone can vouch for his moral character.
He’s a guy living on an all girl’s floor. I would not be comfortable with that arrangement, either as a girl on the floor or the mom of a girl on that floor.
But first make sure you know the facts… that he is indeed living there, as opposed to following the rules ,by staying overnight, signing in and out and whatever the rules are.
He is in a girls corridor. OP did not describe the rest of the floor.
We had dorms that were girls to the right, guys to the left with suite bathrooms same corridor, single rooms with private bathrooms with male and female side by side, all on the same floor. No signing in to the building if you where there before midnight.
How do we know he is a guy ?
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How in the world hasn’t an RA noticed this yet??? Boy living in girls wing? Is say the RA is in part at fault for not being responsible eyes and ears of dorm.
I doubt OP is the only person on the floor bothered by this (but maybe for different reasons). I wouldn’t worry about repercussions if you report anonymously. OP is not in the wrong. The two girls and the guy are!
Certainly RA’s look the other way on minor infractions, but having an unauthorized male living full time for an extended period on an all female wing in a room with two females, is not minor. I would think the RA would jump on getting him out immediately, as if someone higher up the food chain got wind of this first, I think she’d be under some scrutiny.
It doesn’t matter to me that he’s not paying his fair share. It is the principle of it. He’s not supposed to be there. It is also a security issue. Just curious, assuming he’s not tied at the hip to one of those girls at all times, how is he getting into the building? Isn’t your dorm building locked and exterior doors only open by keycard/key only by those who actually are assigned to live there? Who else is getting in that isn’t supposed to be there? And, are there shower/bathrooms in each room, or does he use a communal (male, hopefully) one?
OMG! PM me with the details and I will call the RA.
This is ridiculous. This is no way similar to somebody getting a better deal on a trip to Hawaii and it’s not sour grapes to be upset about a person living for free in your dorm, especially if the OP signed up for a single gender dorm and now has an opposite gender person wandering around. Why is the OP a bad person because she is bothered by this situation?
The people in the wrong here are the two girls and the guy, NOT the OP.
@skieurope You owe me a keyboard. Hilarious. 
Yeah, OP, I don’t think you are being nosy or overbearing for wanting to report this, even if your reason IS because you’re mad he’s living there for free by violating the rules. It’s not victimless, as was already said - extra tenants raise costs for everyone (electricity, security, water, etc.). Given that he’s not authorized to live there and likely does not have a key, in order to keep him there they are likely breaching some security restrictions to get him in and out (leaving their door unlocked, opening the front door of the building for him, etc.) Besides, if they’re doing it successfully what’s to prevent someone else on the corridor from deciding they also can break the rules?
You don’t have to tell the RA anonymously; you can ask them to keep the fact that you told them confidential. Generally speaking, a good RA will (to the residents). If you do feel more comfortable slipping a note under the door, you can do that, but it’ll give the RA a lot less to go on when they start looking into things. Alternatively, you could go straight to the residential director if you feel more comfortable.
Tell the RA: “I think there is a man living in Room 213 and it makes me uncomfortable. I would like my name to stay out of it because i am afraid of repercussions.”
Broken window syndrome: this type of thing, allowed to continue, will only encourage more of the same. If he isn’t paying for housing, he’s stealing, plain and simple. Your friends aren’t his landlords - the school is. School housing isn’t based on renting a unit (where, who cares if there are 2 or 3 people in the space? The rent is still the same amount every month) - it’s by the head. You are paying for a “girl corridor”, so you all have a reasonable expectation that the only occupants will be girls. There are legal contracts and social contracts - this situation violates both.
I agree with bopper’s post. I also wonder how an RA who is living on the same corridor presumably hasn’t noticed this situation.
If they don’t care what others living near their quarter, they are nobody’s friends. What do you care if you lose them as friends? You might as well borrow your brother(s), or you father to live in the dorm for a few weeks to see what these threesomes feel about. It’s not a “three company” kind of funny.
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The OP seems to have abandoned the thread and, really, what else is there to say? Closing.