<p>Just off the phone with DD. She is on a dance team (club sport). Each fall and spring they host a recruitment event for HS seniors. Girls come Friday morning, go on a tour and to class with a dancer buddy. They have a big potluck dinner on Friday and do silly stuff (scavenger hunt, crafts) on Saturday with a team party where they wear their worst dance costume ever. There is a brunch on Sunday before the girls go home. The “recruits” get to workout with the team, go to a practice and learn part of their routine, and if they are dancing that weekend, get to go to the event.
A family who lived near us had a daughter younger than mine at the same studio. The family moved away but mom and I kept in touch and would occassionally see eachother at events. “Jane” is now a senior and had DD’s school on her list. Although her dance style is different from the team’s, I thought it wasn’t a bad idea for her to attend as there are usually at least a few girls who have never done this type of dance on the team each year.
“Jane” turned out to be a jerk. She mostly spent her time texting her friends, wouldn’t get involved in the (albeit silly) activities. She refused to take the dance class because her legs hurt from the workout and walking around campus.
DD has always liked the mom and “Jane’s” older brother and had a nice conversation with them when she dropped “jane” off.
That would have been the end of it but “jane” has posted on her facebook about how the weekend “s*cked”. DD is concerned about the school/team’s reputation and wants to do something. I suggested strongly not sinking to her level by responding on facebook. She’s calmed down and wants to email the mom to say how nice it was to see her and brother and is sorry that “Jane” didn’t have a good time. I think it’s a good idea - are we right?</p>
<p>I would let it go. It’s not worth it.</p>
<p>^^^Agree. It’s Jane’s loss. Why go any further into it?</p>
<p>Nope. How this works is that “Jane” very graciously thanks D for hosting her for the weekend. Close call. Good riddance.</p>
<p>Agree close call good riddance.</p>
<p>It’s done. Be glad that your daughter is the gracious one in this equation.</p>
<p>Sounds like “Jane” wasn’t all that interested in being there - her loss.</p>
<p>Jane sounds like quite the charmer. I’d drop it.</p>
<p>Odds are pretty good that Jane’s mom knows her daughter and also knows full well that the s*cky nature of th weekend was not entirely due to external circumstnaces. I agree. Let it go.</p>
<p>Ignore it. People like this (who complain incessantly) create problems for themselves eventually.</p>
<p>I agree about ignoring it. Students who know Jane will know it was Jane’s problem and not the dance team’s problem. I would let it go. Calling Jane on it would escalate and draw unwanted attention. Thank goodness you were not in a situation where Jane spent the weekend like she did and then thought she was a shoe-in for the team…</p>