<p>I was thinking about my life so far, and while there are some terrible events going on, I have thought about my 59 years on earth and decided that my life has gotten mostly better as I have gained life experience. I was wondering how some of my old CC buddies feel about their aging experience. I had a holiday milestone- getting my first card from a child AND SIGNIFICANT OTHER !! My son will be going soon and our time is running short. Prison Talk is completely unsatisfying, although I may connect up with a suburban mom in my area in the same situation as I face. We all have aches and pains, and many more doctors than previously, but how is your life in general? Thank you in advance!</p>
<p>My life is still before me.</p>
<p>Yes, that is why I posted this in a PARENT post. Your life is before you, and I hope your life is well-lived. Thanks for posting.</p>
<p>Umm… Class IS a parent.</p>
<p>Faux, I mentioned this before, but it bears repeating.</p>
<p>In one year alone, I had 3 clients with 20-ish year old sons in jails for issues relating to drugs. The parents were all upper middle class, had given good educations and support, used lawyers for initial problems, etc. what helped one mom was when she was wiring money to her son, another woman in-line recognized the address and shared a similar story. The couples have their own support group. </p>
<p>Another mom was in wheelchair and couldn’t visit, but the step-father did. One hopes the sons learn about consequences, but also that they are not terrorized on the inside. I’ve known gals that are in similar situations. I’ve spent time with the psychiatrist in charge of unit, and the goals of rehab. I wish only the best for your son, and I know you will not be easy until he is out. I’ve worked in rehab units, and sincerely hope your son has a good outcome, as many do.</p>
<p>Your daughter is studying hard, has a relationship that makes her happy, and she is so young. Who knows?</p>
<p>My life goes along without many bumps, but the worm–ups and downs!! I decided, its his career, his choice of spouse, I am on sideline, just being supportive. From Gigi, “I’m glad I’m not young anymore”.</p>
<p>^^amen to that.</p>
<p>In my mid 50s, I have to say I feel more content. I don’t get ruffled as easily. My faith is stronger and I have more of a big-picture sense that even very hard situations will work out. I’m more confident. I don’t really have much to prove; I’m freer to be me, and to let others be themselves.</p>
<p>I am sorry about your situation with your son, fauxmaven, but I am very glad to hear that you are considering that life can be good despite the circumstances. And I agree: it can, for you AND for your son. It’s not our external circumstances that define us: it’s our attitude that makes us who we are.</p>