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<p>Yeah. I had the bad luck of interrupting an all-evening ice-cream social. “Can’t talk to you mom, I’m busy.” 
Since he can’t be eating ice-cream all evening, I’m assuming he is being social and enjoying himself.</p>
<p>laxmom and susantm:
That’s funny…My son is also usually huffing and puffing on the phone too. I can tell he’s walking up from the music buildings. At least I know he’s practicing!</p>
<p>It is just so funny to hear these reports about people’s sons. They are all very familiar. I’m so excited when I see an IM from my son - But it starts with “hey mom” and then is ya, no, maybe, good, awesome, don’t know… I’ll see the little thing that says he’s typing and I just hope for some long, juicy description of something, but it never is. I do know he’s doing great though, and that’s what counts. </p>
<p>I don’t know what would make me think he would suddenly start getting real chatty on me now!</p>
<p>P.S. I would not have known Barbie and Peter were alive, much less broken up.</p>
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marite, what a familiar phrase. If I’m the one who calls S, this is the only actual sentence I get. Conversation goes like this: Mom - asks qx. S - Yeh. Mom - asks qx. S - Fine. Mom - asks qx. S - Good. Mom - asks… S (interrupting) “I’m busy now,Mom.”</p>
<p>You’d think we’d learn. </p>
<p>If S calls me, things are a tad better. So far, his calls have been few and for “needs” or needed info on trivial aspects of “independent” living. Music to my ears anyway. Once, to actually thank me for something and to chat a bit :eek:. I slept on that one as though it had been a marriage proposal!</p>
<p>We’re all in the same rowboat here, with the few exceptions who have voluble sons. I figure this: it <em>could</em> be frequent calls home about how awful things are, he hates it, etc. Also, I think some of them truly feel they would be “momma’s boys” if they called us just to “share.”</p>
<p>“Share?” 
Whose son would over use such a word?</p>
<p>Guilty admission: I save the transcripts of most of the IM chats I have with my S, so I can read them later and see if I missed anything the first time, sparse as they usually are. So far, no revelations. (And yes, I’m glad he’s happy.)</p>
<p>(PS: Talking to some other parents with new college freshmen at back-to-school night for our HS last night, it was universally true that the parents of sons sighed that they almost never heard anything, and the parents of daughters moaned that their girls just called <em>all</em> the time about every little thing. We parents of sons did not feel their pain. 
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<p>I just realized I’m actually waiting for the day (which I have been expecting to come soon) when he <em>will</em> start calling just to chat!</p>
<p>jmmom!!! Get a grip!</p>
<p>DH saves IM transcripts for me as he is a night owl and more likely to catch son on IM. Of course, the ones I’d really like to see are the chats w/ his brother. ;)</p>
<p>I love the printed out IMs! We all read them - my husband, my parents, my sister. How sick is that?!</p>
<p>No IM in my household, alas. I was really happy when I suggested to my S that he might consider inviting his roommate (from TX) to spend vacations with us and S replied he’d already done so! Maybe it happened over the ice cream social he was too busy particpating in to talk to his mom?</p>
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<p>off topic, but this is really nice of both of you. I remember spending some school breaks with local friends when I attended college far from home back in the dark ages, and those invitations were much appreciated! This year my husband and I are planning to simply meet son someplace close to college if he has a long week-end, and then take some extra days by ourselves. But by next year, I’m sure he’ll be telling us that he would prefer to spend those breaks with his friends. It’s nice to know that there are families that view an extra kid or two as a plus!</p>
<p>Wow. And I thought that my 17 year-old’s “need to know basis” of communicating with parents was just a phase. It’s sort of depressing to learn that it doesn’t end when they leave the house for college.
My one consolation is that S has decided to stay on the west coast for college - applying to only one small LAC in the east, just because it’s an emotional favorite and he would go if he doesn’t get into his west coast favorites. So even though we may not get much conversation, we’ll probably get his warm body more often than we otherwise would.<br>
At this point, I learn everything from a couple of his friends, and the mothers of his girl friends. The girls’ moms know everthing that is going on and are kind enough to inform us boys’ moms - at least those things which SHOULD be common knowledge…like who is making plans to get the limo for the prom, or something like that.( I’m sure they don’t pass along the juicy tidbits that their D’s share confidentially.) Thank you, girls’ moms! :)</p>
<p>** I learned that MY S was making plans to get the limo, from a girl’s mom.
I also found out who he asked to the prom from a girl’s mom - two weeks later - while we were sitting at the same table at a fundraiser. :rolleyes:</p>
<p>ASAP:</p>
<p>The fact that S is only 15 mns’ walk from home does not make me more knowledgeable about what is going on in his life. :(</p>
<p>lol. I’m not expecting that it will change too much (after all, he’s under our roof, now) but at least you can see if he is healthy and occassionally cook a meal for him. That’s better than nothing, yes?</p>
<p>ASAP:</p>
<p>I can only hope, since he has pronounced cafeteria food “quite decent.”</p>
<p>marite, I was looking at the huds website to see what they are eating and actually found some inspiration for my own menu planning. (But what really impresses me is the fact that they serve fair trade coffee.)</p>
<p>1moremom: High praise indeed, coming from you! I’ll have to check out huds.</p>
<p>ASAP - I have been on a “need to know basis” of communication from S for … oh… 3 years and counting. Those girls’ moms are the best. Even we boys’ moms can cobble together our measly little tidbits to come up with real info, can’t we? I call it the “Moms Spy Network.” When he was in early middle school, S actually thought that was a real thing :D. Let’s hear it for moms 
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<p>Aw, shucks. One funny thing, next to a number of healthy menu items I saw what looked to my old eyes like “UGH”. I thought perhaps someone (DS, for example) had hacked into the site and was commenting on the choices. Eventually I found the key and learned that it was actually VGN, for vegan. ;)</p>
<p>1moremom:
Well, I do have one happy S. He tested out of the foreign language requirement through Latin. He also scored a 540 in French (600 being a qualifying score for testing out) though he has taken no French AT ALL! I am still stunned. I could picture him grinning from ear to ear as we talked over the phone.</p>
<p>marite - that is good news! My son didn’t even want to seriously consider colleges with a foreign language requirement. He would have weasled out of English if he could. We had a similar happy call last week when he defied the odds by placing out of chemistry. (btw - I sent you a response to your PM)</p>
<p>DS also v/happy with his test results. Incredible about the French, it must have been your pre-school efforts!</p>