Harry Potter Viewing

Pre-College Topics High School Life
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<p>I’m getting tired of high school and the inevitable, day-to-day dramas that seem to follow high school students.</p>

<p>There is a group of kids at my school that I am sort of friends with, or at least I thought I was friends with them…sigh. At a school event this past weekend I overheard them talking about their Harry Potter viewing plans and anxiously awaited the moment when I would be asked to tag along. Over the course of two days, during which the topic was discussed in front of me multiple times, I began to realize that they had no intention of inviting me to join them. As I thought I was close with a few of the girls in the group, my feelings were hurt and I decided to convey my frustration with them/the situation to a seemingly uninvolved friend. (I should really just start referring to these high school “friends” as acquaintances, as that is essentially all that they are) She seemed to empathize with me and I was contented until halfway through our conversation, one of the girls from the HP-viewing group blurted out an invitation for the friend with whom I was chatting to join them. I went home on Sunday night hurt and embarassed and it wasn’t until I’d settled into bed at 7:00pm to watch an episode of television with my parents that I decided to check my cell phone; I’d received a voice message from one of the girls who took part in excluding me from the viewing saying that she “had no idea I would even want to go” and that “it’s fine, I guess, if you want to come.” I was humiliated as I began to realize that the friend with whom I had discussed my frustration had informed the group of my hurt feelings…ahhhhh. Would this upset anyone else? I try not to let these cliques bother me but this particular situation really made me feel hurt and excluded. Do you think I am being unfair to them?</p>

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<p>I would just ask to tag along from the get-go. But then again, I’m a guy so I guess things would be different…</p>

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<p>Exactly, you should’ve just asked what was up in the beginning…
Well don’t be all angsty now, just go and have fun. Wilting flowers are boring.</p>

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<p>I feel bad for you but you shouldv’e just asked initially.
This is actually how I saw Harry Potter with my friends (admittedly they are friends and not acquaintances, but most friends were acquaintances first)–they were discussing their plans in front of me, and I was like, “oh hey, could I come?” And they were more than happy to have me along–not awk at all. I know it’s difficult but you just have to try to be more assertive.</p>

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<p>…maybe they were expecting you to jump in to say you want to come as well (It’s not uncommon for someone to do just that), and since you didn’t, they assumed that you weren’t interested in joining them? If you don’t feel like joining them, you can always ask someone else to see the movie with you instead.</p>

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<p>^I did just that and saw it twice! Thanks for the replies :)</p>