<p>When my Dad was diagnosed with an untreatable condition he was very angry, he remained angry the entire time, 3-4 years, though he did not show that anger to anyone but my mother. Sad, he made it difficult to talk about anything related to death and this was very unexpected given the way he had always led his life. We were only able to address some final planning and wishes by couching it under ‘estate planning’ as they moved from one state to another and had to update will etc. as a matter of course, not because he was dying.</p>
<p>When he needed a hospital bed, Hospice came in, they were great, but it was a very short time, called them one day, they came to meet us the next day, brought the bed the 3rd day, gave him morphine and he never woke up, died the next day. I have to say, in hindsight, he was not complaining of pain, probably could have skipped the morphine, and let him hang on through strength of will as i think that is what had him lasting, pure strength of will. The morphine seemed to let nature take it’s course, but the speed surprised all of us, even hospice!</p>