<p>Is she afraid of pain or of what happens when/after she dies? If it is the former, perhaps a nurse or hospice could explain the extensive pain management tools available to her, or, when all else fails, how treatment A is less painful than just living with the condition.</p>
<p>As for death itself, perhaps you could have her pastor, priest, or rabbi speak to her. If she is Christian, then read to her from the Bible and talk about how God cares for His children when they pass into His hands. In many ways, there is no better person to discuss this than a child, someone who can talk about all the comfort that she gave as a parent and how that is the same comfort and love that God promises her.</p>
<p>Promise to pray for her. </p>
<p>There’s certainly something to be said for being God-fearing, but there is also something about not missing the joy - the overabundance of love that is promised.</p>
<p>Talk to her about unfinished business - things she is sorry about, grudges she might hold, people she wished she could apologise to.</p>