<p>So my parents are forcing me to apply to a school that I literally hate for just about every reason, and they’re making me apply ED because I have family connections. (scholarship) Otherwise, I have completely fallen in love with another school that I know I will get into, and that I’m trying to figure out how much I will get in loans, but they really don’t compare.</p>
<p>I know this is awful and weird to ask, but what would you suggest I do to not get in, and kind of go behind my parents back? I don’t want to be disrespectful to the college, but I don’t want them to accept me when someone who loves it should truly have my spot.</p>
<p>You should really talk it out with your parents, it’s really your college education not theirs.</p>
<p>^agreed. They need to realize you won’t get the best education possible at a school you hate. Try to convey that to them. Good luck!</p>
<p>This school you’ve fallen in love with; what is your plan for paying? toms in your own name will probably be limited to $5,500 to $7,500/yr. If it’s a private school, that means your family could get stuck with the other $ 50,000, year. You’d have a lot of "splainin’ " to do! </p>
<p>I wonder if you should wait to sabotage your scholarship until you’ve got a financial safety.</p>
<p>^ I believe that should say: “what is your plan for paying?” and “Loans in your own name will be limited…”</p>
<p>You have to talk to your parents ASAP. Did you already apply ED? Maybe they’ll be okay with you applying RD, because you can probably change your application to RD right now.</p>
<p>If you want to sabotage it, and really, really feel that you can’t talk to your parents, just email/call them and say you want to withdraw your application. As long as your parents don’t want to see the rejection email, you’ll be fine. That’s just a bad idea, though.</p>
<p>You guys, thank you so much. I’ve tried REALLY hard to convince them but I’m getting nowhere, and they even know it’s not a right match. Of cours TUESDAY is the deadline. Ugggh</p>
<p>You’re applying, what power do they have of controlling you applying or not? If it’s really not meant to be, it really isn’t meant to be. College should be somewhere you’re happy to go to, after all it is ultimately your choice; it’s time to make your own decisions and be happy for the next 4 years.</p>