<p>PayPal works very well if you don’t use the same bank as your kids - sometimes it is not possible. It is free.</p>
<p>Ok, we are more on the other side. We pay for everything related to school and all her clothes, sorority dues. We give a monthly allowance for whatever. It is the same allowance she’s had in HS.</p>
<p>We will continue to pay for our kids expenses until they graduate from college. Until then, they will enjoy the life style we currently have. After college, the door is closed (locks changed too). Our older daughter understands that. She is working 10 hrs a week at school, and has jobs lined up already for this summer (I told her without job experience, it would be very hard to get a job after college).</p>
<p>As far as missing her - not a day goes by without talking to her, sometimes more than once.</p>
<p>It interests me how parents feel because i really want to move to New York one day but i dnt think my parents are ever going to let me move out even if i were to move 2 houses down from them. im 21 by the way.</p>
<p>SchoolGurl, most of us who post here are comfortable with our kids going away. It sounds like your parents are not … but you are an adult now. Your parents might be hurt if you move, but you have to do what feels right for you. I have to say, though, that at 21 you can’t expect them to help you out financially if they can’t or don’t want to. I am not suggesting that you DO expect them to do so … I am just pointing out that, while you should be doing what you want to do … you also need to take responsibility for that choice. With freedom comes responsibility. You might have to work while you go to school, you might have to take on some loan debt, you might have to live in a less-than-desireable place. If you are ready to be on your own, you have to be ready to take care of yourself. If you are willing to do that, then go with your heart.</p>
<p>I know i know but come and explain that to my parents…but right now im working…hoping to start going to school again soon so i guess ill just wait and see what happens</p>
<p>I pay for my son’s tuition, room, board (meal plan) and books. He pays for everything else with money he earned at his summer job. He has a checking account at a national bank with an ATM a few blocks from campus. If I needed to get money to him, I’d mail him a check and he could deposit it at the ATM.</p>
<p>I missed my son terribly at first, but it gets easier. We call each other about twice a week, and email. It helps that he loves his campus and is happy there. </p>
<p>Its a big adjustment for parents - we spend 18 years focusing most of our energy on our kids, then they leave! But all young ones grow up and leave the nest eventually. Even if they return to their hometown and settle down a block away from us, they do need to become their own independent adults.</p>