<p>jd, I feel angry for you! I can’t imagine being in your position. I don’t get the seemingly slow action by the police. How infuriating that must be for you.</p>
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<p>Perhaps with 5 people involved as perps the police are proceeding slowly, methodically and legally to get them all rounded up, arrested and ratting each other out.</p>
<p>I urge caution and let them do their professional best. And yes it’s infuriating, but keep it just as an honest feeling; let others act.</p>
<p>JD:
Good idea about channeling your energies into thanking the clerk, GF and others and prodding the police to go after the perps rather than you doing it yourself. If it makes you feel better and if you feel it will light a fuse under the police, write to the local newspaper. If nothing else, it will alert other people to be careful walking on their own at night. I’ve had a couple of evenings meetings since you started posting, and I decided each time to take a taxi back home instead of walking as I would otherwise have done.</p>
<p>You are an incredible father, jdj. Even with all of the intense emotions you are feeling – fear, anger, relief, worry, and so many more – you are attending to important things that need to be done. You must be physically exhausted, too. You have a brave and wonderful son, and we all will applaud him as he graduates. And we won’t forget little brother and all he is going through as he graduates from hs.</p>
<p>I hope you will all find peace, relaxation and happiness on that vacation.</p>
<p>jdjaguar – I’m opening this thread for the first time and want to add my voice to the chorus. I am so sorry for your son’s ordeal. I wish him a full recovery. He sounds like an extraordinary young man with an extraordinary spirit and family.</p>
<p>youngest S’s gf just came by w/ the best brownies I have EVER tasted!
(don’t tell my wife or mom)</p>
<p>All formed into 6 wonderful hearts.</p>
<p>i think i may sleep now.</p>
<p>good night good folks.</p>
<p>JD, you must have TWO awesome S’s for them both to have such great GF’s! You must be very proud. (the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree it seems)</p>
<p>I haven’t been on CC much lately, but I am horrified that this happened to your son! Praying for strength and healing for him and your family . . .</p>
<p>JD- hate to be picky, but isn’t there a third S who we are excluding in our well wishes for your family? We’d would like to include all of the jaguar family in our best wishes.</p>
<p>Hugs to both GF’s.</p>
<p>“Sweet sleep” to you.
(credit to George of the Jungle)</p>
<p>JD,</p>
<p>Many of us do not come to this thread to post regularly. But that does not mean we have forgotten your journey. Many more of us are with you than might speak here aloud. </p>
<p>And… did you know? So many of your posts are poetry. Even in this time of shock and worry for you, the poetry comes through.</p>
<p>jdj-- hoping you can sleep well tonight. Hoping also that one day, as you’re walking down the street and you turn a cold eye to the strangers there, it will be returned with a warm smile. You never know when the stranger that you look at will be one of the “bad guys,” but likewise, you never know when the stranger that you look at will be one of us, either.</p>
<p>I wish you warm smiles tomorrow.</p>
<p>jmmom- I noticed the poetry of JD’s posts also. Thanks for mentioning it.</p>
<p>Splendid news all around! Brave, resillient son.
Your family has so much to look forward to in the upcoming months.</p>
<p>jd, perhaps you might think of hiring an attorney who could prod the police? If you know who one of the perps is, you could ask a civil attorney about suing him? That would at least make it harder for the perp to disappear.</p>
<p>Has there been any news coverage of the attack? If there has been, it might make sense to contact the reporter/paper about the police action or inaction. We all may have watched too much Law and Order or CSI, and expect things to work quickly and smoothly. Unfortunately, life isn’t confined to a one-hour turn around. I have no idea how quickly such cases should be handled in real life. An attorney specializing in such matters (perhaps a former prosecutor?) could give you a better idea of what you should expect.</p>
<p>Is there a victim’s advocate attached to your local police department or DA’s office? There are many here in Massachusetts, and there may be in your S’s area as well. That person can also help you navigate the system.</p>
<p>Good luck and here’s hoping for continued good news.</p>
<p>Great suggestions, Chedva - I would like to add, jd, that you should ask someone else to take these steps for you. I am sure that you have a friend who is dying to help your family, and who would be perfect at this job.</p>
<p>Good morning to jdj and family and GFs. I totally agree with Chedva. With your son on the way to recovery and graduation (yay!) now is the time to think about catching these perps. But don’t do it yourself.</p>
<p>JD, don’t drive by the P’s house, hire a private investigator to drive by, take pictures, snoop around. Hiring an attorney is a good idea as well, but you could hire a PI directly. They tend to be fearless with gathering incriminating evidence while the police twiddle their thumbs.</p>
<p>Karen Colleges, there are three boys: the middle one is in the hospital, the youngest a high school senior, and jd hasn’t posted about the oldest. Prayers for all three, and jd and wife, of course. Great news about graduation participation. This will be an unforgettable day for everyone involved.</p>
<p>While I agree jd and the family should not take justice into their own hands, I know from personal experience that when/if the victim remembers more about the attack, it is very important to continue to update the investigators. Sadly, criminal justice people are terribly overworked, and there is a “squeeky wheel” component. Families who advocate for themselves and provide helpful information sometimes get further in the system. This is just my experience, and maybe someone in the criminal prosecution/investigation field can offer more. I don’t mean to light a fire under you, jd, but it might help to know how involved to be with the investigation to optimize the chances for finding and prosecuting these guys.</p>
<p>S, GF and 5 detectives went to the secondary crime scene (mini-market) today.</p>
<p>GF’s aunt sent a nastygram to the police dept.</p>
<p>S told me detectives were upset w/ him for not being able to provide info re: model of car and id of perps. Detectives grilled him for motive and he reiterated RANDOM.</p>
<p>They were not happy w/ that answer and also said if the actual attack occurred in one county and since he may have stumbled, crawled, walked into another county that jurisdiction issues could get the entire case thrown out of court if there ever is a trial.</p>
<p>not exactly like TV is it?</p>
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That’s absurd!</p>