<p>keeping your son and you in my thoughts</p>
<p>jdjaguar, just reading this now–am thinking positive thoughts for your son’s surgery tomorrow, and for your whole family. So sorry…</p>
<p>I am just heartbroken for your son and your entire family. It’s clear that he is still here for a reason, though, and perhaps that can be your main comfort. As terrible as this inhumane act was, know that many hundreds of us here on CC are with you in spirit as you rise to the challenges ahead for all of you. It’s so difficult to remember when our kids are hurting how critically important it is to take care of yourself—so that the strength you have shown, and will continue to show, can prevail.</p>
<p>Thank you for taking the time to update us. I am thinking of you all and also sending cyber-hugs.</p>
<p>I am so sorry about what had happened to your son. What an awful nightmare!! I shall keep him and your whole family in my prayers and wish your son a full recovery!!!</p>
<p>You and your son are in our prayers. And take a hug for yourself.
Please hang in there and know you and your family are getting support from the many different people and families represented on CC. I’ll be thinking of you and your son and sending good energy in your direction.</p>
<p>Oh, I’m so sorry, jd. May the doctors be able to rescue his face and bring it back to normal and may you and other family and friends be able to rescue his spirit, which may seem crushed now. You are in my prayers. Please update when you can. There are so many parents here pulling for you and your son.</p>
<p>My prayers will remain with your son and your family throughout the coming weeks as he recovers. How senseless … how sad … and what a reminder that life can change in an instant.</p>
<p>I hope you will have good news for us tomorrow.</p>
<p>prayers for your son and your family, how senseless!</p>
<p>I am sorry to hear this about your son…I know how you feel as my son was also a victim of senseless attack on a Halloween night when he was in high school. Fortunately he got away with only bad bruises and a broken finger.</p>
<p>You and your family are in our prayers this Easter Sunday.</p>
<p>Jdjaguar, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Please take care of yourself and keep your strength up.</p>
<p>What a horrible tragedy. I am so sorry for you all. May your son be blessed with a speedy recovery, and healing thoughts for your whole family.</p>
<p>Out of horror must PLEASE come good - as humans we have to believe this, as a pained mother please know that we are holding on to this truth for you because just now you can’t.</p>
<p>Sending more positive thoughts and prayers your way. May you all heal quickly and completely. And please do take care of yourself. Eat when you don’t want to.</p>
<p>Words are not enough. Sending positive thoughts your way and hoping for quick recovery.</p>
<p>I am so sorry your son has had this horror happen to him, and that you and the rest of his family has to see him in such pain. </p>
<p>A good friend of mine has a son your boy’s age (a college senior). Five weeks ago he was in a bad accident and was in ICU for 2 weeks with major brain trauma, bad bleeds, etc. Another friend wrote the following to her:</p>
<p>*I have been thinking of nothing else since I heard what had happened. I can speak for the rest of us, my family and even my friends who don’t know you. We are all “MOMS” being brought close to what is all of our greatest fear…something happening to our children. </p>
<p>First of all, it is no accident that your children are exemplary students, athletes, friends, loving people to your whole family, and especially you. The reason is YOU. You raised them EXPECTING them to become all of the above. You told them how smart, loving, wonderful and responsible they were. Guess what? They listened to what you wanted for them, they BELIEVED what you told them and they knew that you always loved and had their best interest, even though of course they don’t ALWAYS want to agree with us, bottom line…they always knew that YOU were their lifeline. I believe we always want to make our parents proud and live up to what they expect of us. I know that you did with your parents, as I did with mine.</p>
<p>Here is what I think. Whatever YOU tell him he will believe and expect to happen. You could give him a lot of facts about how bad his injury is and how long the recovery is and the negative “chances” of what the injury MIGHT cause. OR you could tell him that you know he is going to be getting through this with flying colors! You have LOTS of time to fill him in on the whole scary details AFTER he has recovered! </p>
<p>MIRACLES and PRAYERS don’ t care about cat scans, and statistics, and normal expectations. He will believe whatever you tell him. I would NOT let anyone give him any negatives. He has to just know that he is strong and that his head is healing and all of this is normal and he is just recovering, like any other injury…it is all NORMAL.</p>
<p>I just want you to know that he is going to be PERFECT again. We are all powerful when it comes to these things…and with all of those who love you and your son praying for you, there is no way he won’t be healthy and reliving this event in his life forever!</p>
<p>You call US when you are scared and tell us whatever difficult things you are going through. We are all your support group and you need to unload. But when you see your beautiful boy, just give him love and positive MOM vibes and he will do what he knows you are expecting him to do.*</p>
<p>I share this as a message that prayer and positive thoughts do work. My friends son is already back at school and on track to graduate after what doctors say is a truly miraculous recovery. I’m praying and sending positive thoughts that we hear good news from you next week.</p>
<p>thank you so much…I just hugged S in the hospital and told him everything is going to be ok…that he would end up better-looking than he was,</p>
<p>but i must say… the anger…it is starting to rise as the shock washes away.</p>
<p>My S was ambulatory enough to go to the hospital internet cafe and
checked his cell phone account…sure enough the &*#$% holes who did this had used
his phone.</p>
<p>S called the number and TALKED TO ONE OF THE PERPS!</p>
<p>The police were called…but alas…DETECTIVES DO NOT WORK ON WEEKENDS!</p>
<p>Surgery is 7:15 am tomorrow…we are there at 6:30 for consult.</p>
<p>S can never play any form of contact sports again…not even basketball.
Tough medicine for an All-State Linebacker.</p>
<p>All of your thoughts do help me let out the anxiety I hold, and I thank you…but I cannot lie…the anger is beginning to flow…</p>
<p>I know the address of the perp/</p>
<p>cpeltz,
That is an incredibly inspiring message. Powerful, powerful stuff.</p>
<p>crossposted w/jdjaguar –
I’d call 911 with that info and not wait for the detectives. The perp could get rid of the phone. Did your S know his attackers or could he identify them? It’s good to hear he is up and about enough to get online.</p>
<p>Anger is a NORMAL response here, along with the million other things you are feeling. Use it to fight for your son’s recovery and for justice against his attackers.</p>
<p>he does not know the perps.</p>
<p>S is strong…S is doing the police work for the police!..but the police do not work on
weekends here, as it goes…unless you are shot and killed…but even then whoknows?</p>
<p>S will have his face removed tomorrow and 5 hours of reconstructive surgery…he looked better today than he will in weeks.</p>
<p>I am trying to restrain my anger…channel it…i will be at the hospital at 4 am pre-op.</p>
<p>Thinking of you and your S… We will be with you in spirit all night. It is good that S is strong… that came through even before you stated it. You are strong, too. Glad you have each other.</p>
<p>May this end better than you are fearing right now.</p>