<p>Anger makes sense. Just don’t turn it inward. They should put treadmills and free weights in hospital OR waiting rooms to give people some way to work off steam. You will have a very long day tomorrow. I will keep you and your son in my prayers all day.</p>
<p>Just now reading about your son - so sorry to hear what has happened! Add me to all those who will be thinking of you and your son tonight and tomorrow. I can hardly imagine how angry you must be, particularly when you know that the perps are out and walking around and using your son’s phone! However, I was glad to read that you are trying to channel your angry in effective ways. Your son really needs you now and will need you in the weeks to come. Though the temptation might be to seek some retribution, your son needs and deserves your attention much more than those perpetrators do!</p>
<p>jd…so sorry. Just read about your son. I’m sending thoughts and prayers your way. I was so happy and ready to share that yes, I did hug both my sons today, in person and then read your post. OMG. So senseless! We had something similar happen near us in a college town (Kutztown) with a tragic ending.
Channel your anger into something positive. I know if I knew where the perps lived, I would be in major trouble…please know that you are in our thoughts.</p>
<p>jdjaguar,</p>
<p>Your anger is understandable. It is now that you need even more strength to turn this situation into a story of good triumphing over evil. You cannot give into your anger and must let it be channelled into productive action - like stirring up some support. </p>
<p>I take it given the severity of the injuries we are talking a felony assault here. When the local cops refuse to take immediate action on capturing felony suspects who may be discarding/destroying evidence, this deserves an investigation. I would call the precinct where you filed the initial complaint and ask for the highest ranking officer on duty. Let him know that they have and have been using the cellphone and that you expect them to get the carrier to pinpoint the location of that phone (it can be done) and arrest the person carrying the phone. Let them know the local TV station (who probably should know about the initial crime) will be getting the next call. That should be enough to get them off the dime. I know from personal observation that the only things cops fear is the media and lawyers.</p>
<p>Channel your energies into getting this issue resolved properly. I think it will do more for your son’s psychic healing than you know.</p>
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<p>A young woman I know had a terrible accident as a child and had her face peeled away so they could reconstruct it. You would never know it by looking at her (and it was hard to imagine for her parents immediately post-surgery). She is beautiful and leads a completely normal life. There is just the slightest scar at her hairline which is only noticeable once you’ve heard the story and try to find it. I hope for the same results for your precious son. Thank you for checking in. Many of us are thinking of you and your son throughout the day and sending you our best thoughts and sending up our most fervent prayers.</p>
<p>jdjaguar - I know how you feel. Before my son was born, the only thing I wished to have was I would have a healthy boy. My wife would not let any kids tease my son. My best wishes to yours.</p>
<p>jdjaguar, I am shocked and horrified at what has happened. I read your post this morning, was unable to respond immediately, and thought of you and your family often during an 8-hour drive today. The shock and sense of unreality comes through loud and clear. I am praying for your son, for the best possible outcome, and waiting for your update tomorrow.</p>
<p>Your anger is completely justified. I hope you can find someone in the police department who will take this seriously! What kind of monsters would do something like this?</p>
<p>cpelz, what a wonderful post. I will remember it (and hope I never have to use it).</p>
<p>I have strayed far from my Catholic roots, and did not pray for many years until LTS needed prayers. I am praying, praying, praying for your son.</p>
<p>jdj-</p>
<p>Of course you are angry! And frightened. And all of it. You would not be human if you were not. The trick now is to find a core of peace so you can take care of your son, your family and yourself. You cannot do that if you are raging; do not let the perps take that from you.</p>
<p>I have held you and yours in my heart all day and will continue to do so.</p>
<p>jdg:</p>
<p>I hope you get some good sleep so that you can be there for your son at 4am. Then let your anger flow freely and get the police to go after those criminals!
The second total face surgery in the US was performed at Boston’s Brigham’s & Women just two days ago. The first was performed last December at Cleveland Clinic. I hope your S gets the very best of care. Meanwhile, we on CC will be thinking of him and you.
[Boston</a> Medical News - White Coat Notes - Boston.com](<a href=“http://www.boston.com/news/health/blog/]Boston”>http://www.boston.com/news/health/blog/)</p>
<p>Oh dear, I’m so sorry for you all. Perhaps it might help to reinforce the fact that your son is young and healthy, and probably in pretty good shape if he’s a linebacker. So he’ll heal relatively quickly. At his age the body has remarkable reparative abilities. </p>
<p>I hope tomorrow goes well…I’m sure it will. I’ll be one of many praying for your son, and for you and your family.</p>
<p>My parents huge me less than 5 times a year,haha.</p>
<p>{{{{HUGS}}}} jazrie, we parents have lots of them and are happy to share. </p>
<p>jdjaguar-- many thoughts and prayers for everything to go well for your S tomorrow.</p>
<p>I am so sorry this has happened to your son and your family. You have every right to be angry and if the police do not work weekends I would be calling the mayor and every city official I could locate tonight.</p>
<p>Your son, your family, and his medical team are in my prayers tonight and tomorrow.</p>
<p>jdg:</p>
<p>I keep checking this post for your updates. I feel like I’m in the waiting room, eager for any news. </p>
<p>Please, if you live in S Fl, pm me. Somehow I think you mentioned FL.</p>
<p>Oh my god, I just came across this. I can certainly understand your anger – it’s incredibly upsetting even reading about it. I hope the police catch every one of those b<em>st</em>rds. Take care, and best wishes for healing and recovery for you BOTH. XOXO</p>
<p>Please tell your son that there will be a collective outpouring of support and well wishes from all of us as he enters surgery and the recovery that follows. Wishing you personally much strength as you muster the resources (legal, investigative, medical) to come through this.</p>
<p>I too just dropped in. This is all of our worst nightmare. My heart is with you and your family. The world is whacked. I agree with calling the media on this one.</p>
<p>My son had an extensive craniofacial surgery too and you are right - he’s not going to look pretty when he comes out! But the young are amazing and every day you will see your beautiful boy emerging from the bandage and swelling. Hang in there and as awful as it sounds, take come pictures. Eventually this will be an important part of his life story and documentation is a big part of it. The pictures will also be powerful when you go to court.</p>
<p>In terms of managing your life, find you bossiest girlfriend and have her coordinate all the offers of help that will start flowing in. She can arrange who brings meals when and who cuts the grass (and so on). If you son can’t eat real food for a while (wired shut or jaw reconstruction, put your friends on making extra nutritious chicken broth for him once he can start to eat (organic chicken and lots of carrots in my broth!). It will help the people who cook feel useful. It takes a while to make, so they are engaged. And it does a lot to promote healing.</p>
<p>Also, make sure you get someone to talk to the Dean of Students at his college.</p>
<p>“I know the address of the perp/”</p>
<p>Please don’t do anything stupid, even if you feel the police are not doing enough. Channel your anger into energy for recovery.</p>
<p>just spent 4 hours trying to console my wife…i fear she is close to a psychic break…all she can repeat is they left my boy to die in a ditch and tomorrow they are taking off his face…she has finallt collapsed out of exhaustion and is asleep…i, myslf am weary.</p>
<p>i must try and sleep now, thought I know that will be nigh impossible…but sleep i must as his surgery is but hours away.</p>
<p>all of your well wishes have added to my strength, and I am truly grateful.</p>
<p>I will update after the procedure.</p>
<p>good night good folks…and happy easter.</p>
<p>My heart is breaking for your son, you and your wife, jdjaguar. This horrific violence is unspeakable. I am sending all of my positive thoughts and vibrations to you all. Best of luck to your dear son in his surgery tomorrow. </p>
<p>And may those sickening attackers be caught and punished to the full extent of the law. </p>
<p>I emailed my son with your son’s sad story, and urged him to be very careful. Your words may save someone else the horror your son is going through. Hugs to all of our children.</p>