<p>One of the other posts mentioned taking pictures. Although the thought of taking pictures when he’s at his worst will be difficult, but these photos will be a visual documentation of what the offenders did to your son. They will document the severity and brutality of the injuries as well as your son’s pain and suffering. These pictures will show the jury the truth of the severity of the incident. The jury should have the opportunity to see these pictures and visuals.</p>
<p>Take care. Your CC community will have your family in our thoughts tomorrow. You may want to talk with someone in the hospital about the possibility of getting a couple of valium or xanax pills for your wife to help her cope with the stress over the next week or so. </p>
<p>Adding my voice to the chorus and sending a fervent prayer for a successful surgery tomorrow. I will be thinking of you all day. Hope you are able to find a modicum of peace once your son starts the road to recovery.</p>
<p>Definetly get all pictures you can and written reports to xrays, I was able to use this to raise bail for someone. do not was any of his clothing either.</p>
<p>If your S has not done so yet, get someone from the DA’s office to come take a victim witness statement, as it is probably fresh in his mind.</p>
<p>Don’t take the photos yourself, don’t make the calls to the police yourself. You have many friends and relatives who are eager to do anything they can to help. As another poster suggested, ask your take-charge friend to coordinate the volunteers. There is someone you know who will raise h*ll until the police take the appropriate actions. There is someone you know who will be able to take the photos you will need later. Don’t subject yourself or another relative to this. Let people help you, and focus on your son and your wife. My heart is breaking for all of you. I am hoping to hear soon that your lives are turning right-side-up again.</p>
<p>It is too late to get a statement from the son as his surgery is scheduled for early morning. It will be some time when he is able to move the muscles in his new face.
But some suggestions are excellent: take photos, get statements from the admitting staff as to your son’s condition when he was admitted; get friends to help both in dealing with the police and in supporting your wife and you cope with this ordeal. They can help with making hot meals, doing errands, and everyday tasks that may seem mundane and trivial right now but still need to be performed. It must be so hard for you and your wife but all three of your sons, not just the one in hospital, need your strength.<br>
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Just the other day, I listened to the Young at Heart rendition of Coldplay’s Fix You. It seems a suitable song for this situation. I find music immensely comforting. Perhaps you, your wife and son will, too. It’s only a few hours before your son undergoes surgery. May everything turn out right!</p>
<p>I just started reading this thread. I am so sorry for what your son and your family are going through. I am holding you in my thoughts and meditations.</p>
<p>Your family will be in my prayers tomorrow.
From my experience,surgeons sometimes concentrate on the most obvious trauma so please have your family doctor examine your son to make sure no other organs are injured especially his spleen.</p>
<p>jd,
be sure to ask your son’s Dr for some sleeping pills for you and you wife tomorrow, to help you both sleep and be able to function in the days ahead. Don’t try to “tough it out” on your own. You will will need to be strong for you family, and no can be strong if they are sleep deprived. Wishing you the best. Your son will recover and so will you.</p>
<p>all my prayers are with you and S this morning, please take care of yourself and your family during this long day, as you will need both your physical and emotional strength.</p>
<p>I hope you and your wife “feel” all the prayers today. Know that for everyone that is responding here, there are all that many more who are reading this thread and also offering up their prayers. They just feel that they don’t have the right words, but are praying just the same.</p>