<p>Stacey Connor says she just came to the point where she couldn’t handle her adopted 5-year old son nor her increasing negative feelings about the boy. It was a bad situation that I never want to be in. Sounds like she and her husband tried everything prior to deciding to find the boy another family.</p>
<p>This isn’t what I thought this thread would be about… </p>
<p>But what are you referring to? Googling Stacey Connor didn’t turn up much. </p>
<p>ETA: Nvm found it. </p>
<p>After reading her most recent blog, my heart breaks for her. I can’t imagine what she and that child must’ve gone through. If it is true that he’s thriving now and that he was ready for the change, then I can’t help but feel grateful for the choices that they made. It seems they did the best they could and sometimes the fit just isn’t right. I see it with bio kids, too. It’s unfortunate but it is what it is. If it was best for the child to go elsewhere, then so be it. Everything should be done in the best interests of the child IMO. </p>
<p>I’m wondering why you are bringing this up now, OP, since the only blog post on this event I can find is 5 years old. Do you know someone in a similar situation? </p>
<p>There’s a blog post from Feb 2014- about a new adoption, which likely triggers interest. </p>
<p>( and it was a featured interest story on Yahoo this week)</p>
<p>Yes, I read about it on Yahoo News.</p>
<p>It is really bad adoption practice to place a 5-year-old in a family that has a 1-year-old. Also bad to place 2 unrelated children at the same time in the same family. Also, creating “artificial twins,” that is, a 2 kids the same age in the same family.</p>
<p>I used to think a lot of these rules were needlessly cautious. But as an adoptive mom who knows many families formed by adoption, I understand why the rules are there.</p>
<p>Oldmom, I never knew that there were “adoption rules” like that, but on reflection, I can see that when placing older children for adoption, one wants to be very very sure that the placement will work out. And older children are likely to have emotional problems and adjustment difficulties.</p>
<p>This is a sad sad story, but as far as we know, the second placement worked for the kid.</p>
<p>I sure hope so.</p>