<p>What a difficult position! My heart goes out to your son, and your whole family, as this is a family “crisis” of sorts. I agree that you and your husband need to pull together for your boy. Why do you think your husband thinks it’s ok for your son to be teased and bullied?</p>
<p>"the SPED director is pushing for us to allow him to be placed in a special program. This program is housed in the school; but is otherwise separate. "</p>
<p>Have you visited this program and is it an appropriate one for your son? Would he willingly go, and would your husband support the choice?
What are your reservations about this option? Would it help with his processing and organizational issues?</p>
<p>edit: I see your latest post that your h doesn’t think it’s ok for son to be harrassed - just differs on solution.</p>