<p>We had a similar situation in middle school. We moved our son to a private school for a few years. The situation improved for a while but returned in spades in the ninth grade. He missed over forty days that year. The school was very supportive up to a point, but we were told in late May that they would not accept him back for tenth grade, pretty much forcing us to send him back to the public school system.</p>
<p>We also went the therapy route and discovered that it was pretty useless unless you can get the parents to put up a united front and unless you can find the right therapist(s) for your situation (it took us over two years and seven or eight different professionals of one sort or another before we assembled the team that made the difference for us.) If you have only tried one therapist and have not been able to find sufficient common ground with your husband to put on a united front, you are still at the beginning of the road as far as therapy is concerned. If the therapist is not working out after a couple of months, look for another. </p>
<p>From what I remember of middle school and high school, the teasing will in all likelihood continue as long as your son reacts to it. Kids of that age will find a way to tease and torment others regardless of what kind of environment the school creates. The teachers and administrators just can’t be everywhere and getting angry at them is not going to help. You are dealing with human nature here and they can only do so much to control that. You need to change how your son (and perhaps how you and/or your husband) reacts to the teasing.</p>
<p>I was always the fat kid in school and hated the teasing until I learned to banter right back and not show how much it bothered me. Eventually, the pack decided that it was more entertaining to tease someone else. That approach may or may not work for your son. In any event, hang in there. It takes a while to get results but they sure are satisfying when they come.</p>