<p>Good advice alwaysamom.</p>
<p>Zafiro, I fear you will drive your daughter away. It is a good bet she knows you don’t approve of this relationship and she would rather go foward with your blessings than without. However I believe she has given you good reason to believe she’s prepared to go along without it.</p>
<p>Also, if she is on a scholarship, holding back funds may not be a potent threat. Though I agree with alwaysamom, I would not issue a threat.</p>
<p>It must hurt terribly the first time an only child tells you they have other holiday plans. It heard me even when I had a house full. But it’s going to happen sooner or later with adult kids. How would you have reacted if she planned to go to the home of a boy you approved of?</p>
<p>At some point we realize we have no control over out adult children. They will choose what role we play in their lives. Look around at how many adults dread spending time with their pareents. It is my goal to make my kids enjoy my company and want to spend time with me. I think it’s the only way I can win.</p>