<p>I go to an all girl high school, which tends to escalate drama…So, I was just in our play, and there were two guys in the play, so, naturally, every girl was all over the guys. However, I started actually liking this guy who was playing my husband in the play, and then I found out he was “kind of but not really” dating one of the other girls in the cast. After a couple weeks, we started getting pretty close, and I found out all of the little intricacies in their relationship, and it’s not very good. They have serious problems, but he refuses to break up with her. Now, he and I have become really close, and he keeps saying he wants to hang out with me now that the play’s over. However, there have been a couple of other little dramas within the cast and crew of the play, and now the girl is spreading this rumor through my class that my best friend and I are “conspiring” to break them up, even though she claims they’re not exactly together. I want to tell him, but we have never really talked on the phone or anything and I don’t want anything to be awkward, but we were getting really close and I don’t want her to say anything to him to make him not want to hang out with me anymore. However, I don’t know what I should tell him because he gets really upset when my friends tell him they don’t like her. I never talk about her with him, because she’s a very touchy subject, but he went off on another friend the other day and said that she loves him for who he is…I don’t think she’s right for him AT ALL, though. One day last week she made him cry, and he is miserable ALL the time. Plus, he said his best friend and his mom wants him to break up with her. I want him to break up with her, both for his case and mine, too, but I don’t know what I should say to him or to her or what I should do? Can anybody give me any suggestions?</p>
<p>BUMP pleasssseeeee</p>
<p>thats a tough situation.</p>
<p>Do yourself a favor and don’t give him advice either way. Hinting to him that he should end it will offend him, and make it so when/if they do finally break up he won’t want to be with you. After all, would you think that someone truly cared about you if they knew you liked this person, yet they told you to dump him/her?</p>
<p>Buuut…you also don’t want to give him advice on how to make the situation better. Because then if/when things go sour, he will think you aren’t interested. What if right now he is confused about how he feels, if he thinks you like him and maybe he likes you too, he’ll dump her on his own…unless you seem uninterested in which case he’ll tough it out.</p>
<p>The best thing you can do is be his friend…but be respectful of him and don’t drop any hints about liking him until he is completely single. </p>
<p>If you feel like you need to talk to him about the rumors this girl is spreading, just tell him flat out that his girlfriend thinks you are trying to break them up, and tell him that you aren’t insulting her in anyway, but you truly are not trying to do so. Reassure him that you respect the fact that he is in a relationship with her, and as his friend, you wouldn’t screw that up.</p>
<p>Make sure he knows you aren’t trying to say “oh your girlfriends so paranoid” or anything, that would reflect badly on you. Just reassure him that you aren’t trying to break them up.</p>
<p>wow…thank you SO much…this was pretty much EXACTLY the approach I was figuring to take…</p>
<p>anyone else??</p>
<p>Hm…well if everyone wants/says he should break up with her, you would think it’d be done already.</p>
<p>Since you don’t have feelings for him(xD or I read it wrong ._.) leave it alone for a while…
It isn’t really your problem, but you could always ask him why he’s still with her(in a friendly way) and the conversation will eventually lead there.</p>
<p>Honestly, I’d tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him EVERYTHING that is going on and tell him to either fix the situation or you guys really can’t be friends, let alone anything more.</p>
<p>If he’s not willing to help himself, there’s no way you can help. But you shouldn’t be made miserable because he won’t break up with her.</p>
<p>I agree with pinksquirrels…
if the relationship is bad as it seems his parents and peers will
be enough pressure to break up the relationship…
don’t add any…he’s probably struggling already so just be
“there”</p>