Help! Grandfather and car

<p>Let me just start this off by saying that I am very appreciative of all the help that my grandfather has given me since I was born, and that I love him very much, but that he has been driving me insane (no pun intended) ever since I began learning how to drive.</p>

<p>The problem began after I refused to drive one of the family’s older cars after its brakes locked up for around 15 seconds while I was on a busy road. After this occurred, my grandfather told me I was being very paranoid for not wanting to drive the car and that it was perfectly safe to drive the way it is, but then decided to help me pick out a used vehicle that I assumed I would pay for myself. After a few weeks, I decided to show my grandfather a list of cars at a local dealership, and he immediately told me that I was going to get a certain car from the list, and he took me down to the dealership the next day to test ride it. The car ended up having many problems, but he ended up pressuring me into picking that one since he liked it, and we put both our names on the title (once again, I assumed only my name would be on the title, and that I would mostly be paying for it myself since he said it would be “my” car). </p>

<p>Everything went fine for the first month until my grandfather began harassing me to let him drive my car to the mechanic or around town. I work nearly full time and go to school, so I told him that it’d be best if we both drove our own cars, as there were many times where he’d leave me without a car to get to work (and he will not give me the keys to his car, even if I wanted to risk driving it) even when my schedule was posted in our kitchen, but yet he still harasses me up to 6 times a day to drive my car to the mechanic (even though there is nothing wrong with it, and I already took it to the same mechanic he uses to get it checked out). Lately I have even been hearing comments from the neighbors and family friends about how he gossips about me not letting him drive my car, which is silly because I am always on the go, when is he supposed to drive it? I am just getting tired of him insulting me all the time and him going behind my back to do things to my car when I ask him not to. He has always had control issues, and now it seems like it’s gotten worse since I got the car. Even when I tell him he’s not going to add/change/fix something on my car because I’d prefer he not, he just replies, “Oh, yes I will!” I want to just pay him the total amount owed on the car in exchange for getting his name off the title, but I’m afraid that he’ll refuse and be insulted by me asking this. </p>

<p>So, does any one have any suggestions on what I should do? Once again, I’m not trying to be unappreciative, it’s just that I would have been just as happy paying for the car myself and that is what I still want to do but he always pressured me into letting him pay for the car.</p>

<p>Can you sell him the car? If he wants one so badly.</p>

<p>Then get your own.</p>

<p>Edit: It’s also possible he is having mental issues, if he is going around saying insulting things about you and this is unusual behavior for him.</p>

<p>Sounds like he’s always wanted whatever model of car you have. That can only explain why he wants to drive it and “upgrade it” with various stuff.</p>

<p>Don’t worry about what he’s saying about you to others. If these people are rational, they probably think your grandfather is a bit crazy for wanting to drive your car.</p>

<p>Is there another adult family member that can intervene? An uncle?</p>

<p>How old is your grandfather? Is it possible he is suffering from dementia? When the elderly become difficult and snappy it is a sign that their cognitive functioning is going south.</p>

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<p>Yes. I notice he made you buy the car HE liked. 2nd teenagerhood? :D</p>