Hi all! New here and looking for some advice. S22 hopes to play lacrosse at the D3 level (maybe D2?) He has a solid GPA (3.98) and is awaiting his SAT scores from his March test date. We expect he’ll do reasonably well based on his PSAT and practice tests but we’ll see.
We had asked him in the fall to develop a list of schools based on criteria important to him (location, size, major options, etc) and then further narrow the list to those that have his sport. He had a list of 5 in the fall. It was a good start, but we obviously wanted to see that expanded.
After attending a winter showcase, he received strong interest from one of the schools on his list! Emails, phone calls, and texts were exchanged and he then visited in February for a tour, talk with coaches, general admissions info. After the visit,
he received verbally and in writing, a “roster spot” from the coach. Of course, this means very little as he still has to apply. They have encouraged him to do EA which is fine since it’s not binding. I am very familiar with the college since it’s near where I grew up. Admissions are not competitive and I’ve no doubt that he will be admitted. Based on their merit aid offerings, he is also likely to get a very generous package which will bring cost to public, in state. He fell in love with the campus and the people. The coaches were very specific about how he could fit into the team and it aligned well with what he’s looking for. They asked about other schools he was interested in and whether he has been recruited by them. He was honest (no but that he plans to reach out to them) and of course, they proceeded to sell him on why they are the better fit than the other institutions (3 of the other schools are in the same conference).
Very long context but all that to say he has now eliminated those other 3 schools from in conference! This is strictly based on what the coaches told him. I am trying to convince him that he needs to see those other institutions through – reach out to the coaches, us do some visits, etc–but he has made up his mind that those aren’t good fits.
The one other school on the list is a D2 from out of state. He visited during a prospect day in the fall. Reached out to coach who wrote him a very personal email (mentioned specific things S22 had done during games) but communication fell off b/c S22 perceives no interest after coach didn’t reply to last email. Don’t get me started on this. So, I fear he’s written off this school too.
I think he’s made up his mind that he’s attending the school that has offered him a spot.
There are so many concerns swirling around in my head and I’m trying to figure out how to best help him. One concern is how to help him identify other schools. I’m going to force the issue and ask for another list but he just doesn’t seem motivated now to do any research. I could make a list for him but I feel like that’s his job.
Another concern I have is that all the schools he has chosen are academically competitive. I am not chasing prestige at all and firmly believe that fit is critical in his choices. However, I know there are other schools that are more academically competitive and have lacrosse who could be interested in him.
I was a 1st gen college student whose parents did not have the knowledge to help me navigate this process and I’m trying to balance helping/guiding and letting him lead.
If you got through all of this, thanks! If you have any experience or advice, I’d love to hear it.