My kid didn’t tell anyone at her high school at all. I think one other person from the high school had gotten in several years before, but otherwise no one.
I suppose in the old days all the prep school kids went to HYP together and then joined the same country club and worked at the same banks and it was cozy and they spent their lives with each other, basically.
It’s different now. Better of course. But many grads now come from working class neighborhoods and many don’t spend the rest of their lives with other HYP grads.
Not every school or family where a HYP student comes from is Ivy obsessed. Elite schools really are looking for socioeconomic diversity. Kids with authentic drive and interests SHOULD be encouraged to apply, whereas the post is about actually calming down the ambition to do so in other towns and families.