<p>My daughter is 16 years old, a high school sophomore soon to be junior and dating a high school senior soon to be college freshman. We live in Florida as does her boyfriend. She will be away for almost 8 weeks this summer in Georgia and he will be working here in Florida. She will most likely be able to see him at one point during the summer. The one thing that bothers me more than anything is that he will be starting college out of state in Illinois. What are the chances of this lasting?</p>
<p>Very low. Most high school couples decide to break up before college, and even if they don’t the boy probably won’t want to be attached to a long distance girlfriend.</p>
<p>Slim to none. But in fairness I will say that my daughter dated the same boy in high school for 3 years. They are both freshmen in college in 2 different states and still dating, though she insisted that if either met someone they wanted to date they could. With school breaks and a couple of brief in between visits they still seem very content with each other.</p>
<p>Almost no chance at all, but there is no need to rush it. They’ll figure it out for themselves.</p>
<p>sophie, we learned with our #1 that such arrangement did not last past the end of the first quarter. When I joined CC, I found out the scientific term for long-distance relationship break ups involving a college student - the “turkey dump”. Hang in there!</p>
<p>to clarify BB’s note…Turkey Dump; usually first time college student comes home 1st semester is Thanksgiving–referring to the breakups that occur then.</p>
<p>Um…didn’t happen w/ D1 and her bf… still going way strong, even hundreds of miles away from each other…</p>
<p>Usually we called it “Turkey Drop”… the other term sounds like the morning after Thanksgiving…</p>
<p>Mmmmmm it depends. My longest relationship was arguably so long because no one expected/wanted us to make it</p>
<p>Chances are low, but sometimes it happens. My sister is a high school senior and her boyfriend is a college freshman. They have made it through this first year (they have been dating for three years), and they seem just as happy together as ever.</p>
<p>A little different, but S1 and GF are still together near end of freshman year at college. Previously dated for 2 years. Presently in Nashville and So Cal–and only saw each other for spring break this semester (and they’ll be in those locations over this summer as well, save for a week or two of visits). </p>
<p>We’ve been surprised, but it can happen. Now to see if it lasts through undergrad, and their respective graduate work . . . .</p>
<p>This is the exact difference with my son and his gf. She is a junior and he is a college freshman. We thought they would break up the first month. Didn’t happen. They did finally break up last month. He “loves” her but finally realized that she still has another year of high school and he is going to go back to his college in the fall. He had talked about transferring close to home to the junior college to be near her. I am glad he isn’t doing that. He said that it is really hard to have a relationship that is phone based. Sadly they are not happy together and not happy apart.
I see them getting back together for the summer and possibly doing the whole thing all over again.</p>
<p>D began dating her BF when she was a HS senior and he was in college. She is now a junior and he is about to graduate. They are still together. I am surprised they had the tenacity, but in many ways it offered them both a stalwart rock of support via telephone and allowed them the freedom to experience their colleges (20+ hour drive apart) and not be joined at the hip.</p>
<p>They are now evaluating their next step when he graduates, I will be surprised if they don’t go for another year until she graduates and we see her grad school options.</p>
<p>One of my good friends went to UNC and her now-husband/then-boyfriend went to UChicago after having dated in high school for a year and a half or two years. They got married after college and are a darned happy couple.</p>
<p>A friend from Rice and her high school boyfriend who went to West Point got married after college and have been married for several years now.</p>
<p>My husband and I dated all through college and then I went to grad school at UIUC and him to LSU (granted, we were a bit older than college freshman at this point) and did the long-distance thing for three, nearly four full years. Got married after that.</p>
<p>I’ve definitely seen it go the other way, too, but young relationships, if they’re right, can hang in there through long-distance academic adventures.</p>