<p>I’m wondering which I should aim for first in my attempt to be a successful college student.</p>
<p>? They’re both quite easy.</p>
<p>I’ve always kissed before holding hands. Hand holding is more relationship oriented to me.</p>
<p>Yeah. Agree with S0ad.</p>
<p>thats what i thought as well.</p>
<p>'in my attempt to be a successful college student. ’ ***?? lololol</p>
<p>Those both seem relationship oriented to me…</p>
<p>depends. when you say “successful college student,” do you mean successful in terms of sexual reproduction or relationships?</p>
<p>In other words, do you want a hot, passionate night… or a relationship?</p>
<p>…the kiss will get you both…</p>
<p>Seriously, though… just do whatever feels natural.</p>
<p>haha, omg these threads are horrible</p>
<p>Sometimes I wonder if people on CC have ever even talked to the opposite sex.</p>
<p>they are both equally impossible.</p>
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<p>what does that have to do with being a successful college student?</p>
<p>they happen at the same time pretty much</p>
<p>“I’m wondering which I should aim for first in my attempt to be a successful college student.”</p>
<p>I suggest that you first aim for being able to carry on a conversation with a young woman while viewing her as an interesting human being instead of only as a thing you’d like to have sex with. From looking at your previous posts, you don’t seem to know anything about how to have even small talk with women, and you seem to view them only through the lens of whether or not they are attractive. </p>
<p>As for your question of holding hand or kissing, both of those things require a level of intimacy that you do not yet seem to be able to accomplish with women because you don’t seem to even know how to become friendly with women.</p>
<p>Whoaaaaa slow down there killer…personally, to really get things going I’d suggest going for the “accidental” back of hand to thigh graze when walking 2 abreast. Or if you’re feeling extra confident, go for the index to index finger contact when passing a piece of paper (also called the ET).</p>
<p>this thread never addressed perspective. Holding hands / Kissing… FROM WHOS POINT OF VIEW?</p>
<p>I just know, I would hold back on kissing my gf when she wanted to on purpose so when I did let her,
it was… lets just say a little passionate ;)</p>
<p>so from her point of view, kissing is more difficult.</p>
<p>this thread never addressed perspective. Holding hands / Kissing… FROM WHOS POINT OF VIEW?</p>
<p>I’m just saying that if I leave my undergrad either have held a girl’s hand or kissed one I would be satisfied with the progress made. So its from my point of view, the guy.</p>
<p>Unless you were a bubble boy your entire life and upon graduating high school you developed an immune system and now you’re out for the first time…I would say that you should set your goals a little higher. You can do it.</p>
<p>To do either of those things, you first need to know how to have a conversation with a woman. Work on that first. If you basically go to classes that are filled almost 100 percent with men, and hang out with your male friends, you aren’t giving yourself opportunities to get to know women. </p>
<p>My suggestion is to get involved in some hobbies, classes, or clubs that women are interested in and that you also could enjoy. Don’t just grit your teeth and participate to meet women. Do some things that women enjoy, and that you enjoy.</p>
<p>Arts and literature classes, for instance, tend to be things that attract women.</p>
<p>^Go to a party instead.</p>
<p>Holding hands for sure. There’s about a million different grips to learn, the two essential ones being the “locked fingers” and the “crossed palms”. Be careful though, using the wrong grip in the wrong situation will get you dumped faster than Kansas got knocked out of March Madness. Kissing is easy since you can just mack on random *****es at parties to practice (make sure to alternate between going left and going right) but you need an actual relationship to hold hands or you come across as needy</p>
<p>The first time you hold a girl’s hand should be to make her do something she wants to do but doesn’t feel like doing ATM, like walking a mile to get some coffee. Grab her by the hand (start with the crossed palm grip, not too forcefully but firmly) and lead her there. If she giggles, you did it right.</p>