Holding my child back in 9th grade

I have had two kids reclassify by choice. They each received offers for schools where they did not need to repeat but chose to go in to the school where they applied as a repeat. They both have adhd. They both are very thankful that they did repeat. They still have their friends from their old school and enjoy that they have become there crystal ball friends - seeing where they go off to college and drafting a little behind in the time line to see how their friends take the college process on. I think each kid and family and school dynamic is a unique equation. Yet, having 5 years of English, math, requirements in history, science, a language is under appreciated. Once college begins, these classes might end after one term. The teachers giving feedback at the high school level vs college level is very different. The frontal cortex finishes developing around age 25 and some reports say older. Another poster referenced that many students, especially boy athletes reclassify. An Admissions office from a local area college even said that they like seeing older students as freshmen applicants for a variety of reasons. More students not the majority but increasingly more students are starting college at age 20. The boarding school my kids are very fortunate to go to is as good as I can imagine for them; classes are small, the teachers really love their craft, their teaching, their subjects and their students… slowing high school down by a year for more of the above before the divergent everything one can experience in college is a gift. Whatever choice you make will work out and the option to PG is another way to get another bonus year before college.

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