Here is our story in case you find it helpful.
We had concerns regarding emotional maturity and executive function since 6th grade, but didn’t hold our son back in 8th grade in part because he was already 6’ tall and one of the oldest in his class (early October birthday). In addition, this was in the heels of covid and a private High School was the right choice at the time (structure, small classes, in-person learning). He has had academic struggles in HS, but exclusively related to executive functioning. Intellectually he is very capable. He has blossomed socially and for the first time found a group of friends who made him feel like he belonged. He hasn’t been diagnosed, but I know he is neurodivergent.
Up until 6 months ago we were considering a gap year after high school (he is a Senior) to allow for more maturity. But in the last 6-8 months he has matured and changed so much. We have decided to change our approach to parenting him as well, and as we stepped back, he stepped up. So we are now at a point where he is in the process of applying to colleges. He is looking at small, LACs, preferably religious (he attends a religious HS- he is not religious but he loves the environment).
Best wishes for your son.