@MaryGJ, I run a homeschool network in Downstate NY. We have hundreds of families and I make it my business to interact with other networks that each has several hundred more. It’s a disservice to all homeschool families for you to perpetuate myths and to purposely promote aberrations as the norm. The children who were put into public school in 5th grade were neglected because their parents were neglectful, not because they were homeschoolers. Abusive parents can be found in all areas of society.
You seem to take delight in denigrating public school families too. It’s going to make your children’s lives difficult if you persist in teaching them that they’re above everyone else. However, your insistence doesn’t make it so.
What state permits the school guidance counselor to pass on such personal details about other families? It’s a violation of FERPA regulations.