<p>Hello reader,</p>
<p>I transferred from California to Boston U. The first week here was hell. I realized how homesick I was the moment I stepped through my dorm. I came to realize that I couldn’t be alone in my dorm for 2+ hours (I live in a triple). I even debated just taking the semester off to re-access my goals. However, I decided to stick it through.</p>
<p>After the first week, everything was much better. However, two weeks later, I felt the same homesickness pain I did when I first got here. </p>
<p>I have tried everything to get used to and love being here. The city is very nice, however, I cannot see myself here for 4 years. I have tried:
- Talking to RA’s, SRA’s, psychologists, and counselors
- Going out and being more social
- Joining clubs
- Keeping myself busy with work
- Exploring the city
- Skyping with loved ones and family</p>
<p>However, I’m starting to think that maybe this school isn’t for me. I am seriously debating transferring back home to USC or Claremont McKenna, hopefully. </p>
<p>Are there any BU students that can relate to me right now?</p>
<p>Are you a freshman? You are doing everything right. My only advice to you is to focus on today - not four years from now. Try to do something fun TODAY. Consider reaching out to someone new today. Make some positive steps toward friendships today. If you think about the “four year plan” right now, it will only feel more overwhelming. This is one of the biggest adjustments of your life - relax and give yourself time. </p>
<p>My guess is that you are on the right path - just stumbling a bit at the moment. You have already shown that improvements can be made with time - reread what you said about the first week vs the second. </p>
<p>I would be willing to bet that you are not alone in having a surge of homesickness right now - a little too long before Thanksgiving, the pressure of pre-midterm assignments beginning to mount, roommate issues cropping up after the initial “honeymoon” phase, etc. </p>
<p>Hang in there!!! Things will look better next week!</p>
<p>Thank you very much!</p>
<p>I have tried making some friends and rushing for Alpha Kappa Psi(a business fraternity).
I’ve made some great friends. However, there are times where I just feel very out of place and that Boston isn’t the place for me. </p>
<p>However, I will give it another shot and get back to you.</p>
<p>Thank you for answering.</p>
<p>You’re not the only one out there oddballs. I am going through the same thing at BU but it seems to be getting better. Best of luck and see you around!</p>