<p>Hi!
A friend/collegue’s wife just died and she was a buddhist. I was wondering if anyone has thoughts/ideas about how to honor her memory. We offered to have a mass said for her but her husband said she’d turn over in her grave. 
Would appreciate thoughts of those more knowledagble about these things.
Thanks!
HImom</p>
<p>Do buddhist temples accept donations in the name of the deceased?</p>
<p>Not sure–left a message with someone at the buddhist temple & will see what he says (referred by a friend of a friend).</p>
<p>HImom - will there be an obituary printed in the paper? Many times they list a charity to make a memorial to.</p>
<p>Not sure, as the deceased was living far from HI for many years now, tho her widower resides in HI. Don’t know where her obit would be printed–just found out her name & confirmed her death today.</p>
<p>Himom - you can check legacy.com if you have her first and last name, or even a last name and first initial. If her obit has been published in any newspaper in the U.S., you will most likely find it on legacy.com.</p>
<p>Thanks–she was out of country when she died & her last name is not found in any obit using the site you so kindly provided.</p>
<p>When faced with similar circumstances, I usually donate to a charity that I know the person did support/would have supported due to their interests or to one that researches cures for their final illness (cancer, heart disease, etc.).</p>
<p>Maybe it’s just me, but my Catholic friends pray for my non-Christian husband and light candles for him, and I am flattered that they keep him in their thoughts and prayers. I put less emphasis on the form of religious tradition or expression, I guess.</p>
<p>You could donate to Buddhist Peace Fellowship. I’m Buddhist, and that’s the kind of tribute that my Buddhist friends and I would appreciate.
[Buddhist</a> Peace Fellowship](<a href=“http://www.bpf.org/html/home.html]Buddhist”>http://www.bpf.org/html/home.html)</p>
<p>Thanks for these thoughts. I actually started & am running a non-profit focused on her condition–her husband is a new member on my Board of Directors and we are trying to prevent others from suffering as she did.</p>