<p>Are girls who date above their league discriminated against? Do they reap scorn from jealous peers who cannot understand why an uglier and fatter girl gets the hot guy, as well as from dumbfounded guys who cannot fathom why their stud settles so low? When an unattractive guy gets himself a hot girlfriend (happens all the time in the music industry), he is a hero to all the average (and below average) schmoes out there. Even the hot guys give him respect for beating the odds. And since male attractiveness is much more arbitrary than female attractiveness, the fact that this guy has a hot girlfriend signals that he is an attractive male to be snagged, even if his face and bod don’t immediately reveal that fact. Did Mick Jagger get a lot of girls because he was hot, or was he hot because he got a lot of girls? Probably the latter.</p>
<p>But it doesn’t seem to work the other way around. Take Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston. While Jen was quite attractive, Brad Pitt was the top hunk in town, and even a pretty girl like her was out of his league by Hollywood’s standards. Therefore, when he unchivalrously divorced her for Angelina, there wasn’t much public backlash because he was finally going to where he belonged: super-hotville. Jen shouldn’t complain because she should’ve just been happy to have been along for the ride. Only someone as superhot as Angelina belonged with Brad, even though it was perfectly okay for a decrepit skeleton like Billy Bob to date Angelina. </p>
<p>Conversely, observe the backlash against Jude Law. What he did was not that dissimilar from Brad Pitt’s antics, but he cheated on a hot girlfriend, Sienna, for a starkly un-hot nanny. Maybe if he did something with Kate Beckinsale, it would’ve been considered awesome amongst the lads, and dramatically romantic amongst the lasses. But since it involved a hot guy with a homelier girl, it was disgusting, immoral, and poor Jude had to go hide in a cave.</p>
<p>Any thoughts? I think it’s a reflection of a sexist society that has ingrained gender roles so firmly into the minds of both men and women that those who break the holy paradigm of the “powerful man-beautiful (young) woman” pairing are instantly ostracized. It’s a perfect bro’s invention because it allows any unattractive guy to get any woman he desires as long as he becomes rich and powerful. While that’s not exactly an easy task, it’s at least doable, unlike becoming genetically aesthetically gifted.</p>
<p>Um…how does Hollywood reflect society has a whole? Not everyone has relationships like that or our divorce rate would be near 100%…It’s not a good representation of the population.I think it’s pointless to speculate especially when you’re not using facts…just loose opinions based on People magazine…</p>
<p>Even though I don’t think the Hollywood examples were the best way to go about this, the OP has a point.</p>
<p>It almost seems, however, that there are more “pretty girls” than there are “cute boys.” Decent looking girls are a dime a dozen, while good looking guys aren’t very plentiful.</p>
<p>At least, that’s the way it is in my school. Mostly, girls take more care as to their appearance so “dateable” girls are easier to find than “dateable” guys. So many of the decent looking guys who want boyfriends have to date some not so great looking guys.</p>
<p>I think in men, women look for security and achievement. In women, it’s stereotyped that they want a hot body. Plus, women are a generally *****y towards each other – I know I only have…3-ish female friends and a load of guy friends, whereas men are a bit more relaxed.</p>
<p>I think the fact is that women, in both the past and present, have often chosen men who have wealth, fame, or power despite the men being ugly, old, or any other un-hot feature. Men, on the other hand, don’t usually seek wealth or power to come along with their spouse, and they are likely to place more emphasis on women’s looks.</p>
<p>I’ve noticed that too. Maybe I’m just paranoid?</p>
<p>The guys I work with constantly objectify women. They talk about all these “hot girls”, and always talk about how hot these girls are when they come in. It’s awfully uncomfortable. I rarely here a comment from girls besides “i liked his muscles”. i’ve noticed at my school there are alot of attractive girls with less attractive guys, but rarely the other way around. and certainly in hollywood!</p>
<p>it seems like in men, all different types are acceptable. but in women…they have to have ONE figure, long straight hair, one personality. this is a huge generalisation, but how many men prefer girls with short hair? it’s absurd, to have to think about other people’s opinions when you get your hair cut! it’s so difficult to be an intelligent, confident, self-assured woman. </p>
<p>seems like girls are more willing to look for beauty in those they love/are attracted to than have to have it be a pre-requisite.</p>
<p>I know several chicks who are hot and are with ugly dudes…I guess they have certain personalities that makes girls attracted to them…in the majority, girls are more attracted to an ‘essence’ rather than a vision, and that can be personality, choice of language, body language, even the kind of eye contact…if its from an ugly face they usually pay attention to the deeper attribute.</p>
<p>i think that some of the other posters are correct in that there are other things that are used to determine the attractiveness of a male. for example, money can make any man attractive. just ask anna nicole smith. also, a lot of girls really are into personality and other non-look based traits. </p>
<p>guys on the other hand, tend to think with their heads alone (and not that head at the top of their bodies)</p>
<p>I was just thinking about this… my opinions have already been stated somewhere above (any of my comments would just be redundant =D), but it’s an interesting discussion.</p>
<p>To me, there’s this ability for a guy to “get a girl.” I’ve barely heard talk about a girl getting a guy. It’s tradition for a guy to ask out a girl, etc. And so girls get jealous if an uglier girl is wanted by a hot guy. An ugly guy getting a hot girl “makes him a hero” probably because of his role–he’s the one who asked her out and got her to say yes. (I’m not saying that girls don’t or can’t make the first move, it’s just that’s not considered “traditional”.)</p>