<p>Usually on Father’s Day, all us “kids” (we’re all in our 50s) go out to a nice dinner with my father and stepmother. Our spouses go along. But I don’t always do something separate for my darling husband. Do any of you wives buy elaborate Father’s Day gifts for your spouse?</p>
<p>Our kids buy presents for their dad (my H), I don’t. We’ll go out to dinner, but often it’s for my dad to.</p>
<p>I read it some where that in general more money is spent on mother’s day than father’s day, as it should be.</p>
<p>My mom and I go out to dinner with my dad. That’s about it. Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are really not big deals in my house.</p>
<p>My dad will call his dad. My mom’s dad passed away 18 years ago.</p>
<p>I don’t have any expectations of my W doing anything for me on Father’s day (and she doesn’t) - I’m not her father.</p>
<p>It can be celebrated in one of two ways.</p>
<p>You can celebrate your own father or your own mother, and your spouse is off the hook.</p>
<p>Or you can treat the day as a way to honor your spouse for being a father or a mother, and use it to show appreciation for your spouses role in being a parent.</p>
<p>I prefer the later. I think it is one of the rare days that the spouse should show appreciation & recognition to the other for the work that they do in their role as a parent, and a way to celebrate and honor that effort.</p>
<p>Of course, it would be easier to tell my wife I won’t buy her anything for mother’s day because she’s not my mother. But I don’t think she’d like that too much.</p>
<p>We aren’t that into what I call “greeting card holidays”. I used to send cards, but now I just call my father. I get my husband a card and we might get together with our daughter and her husband if it works out. We do a lot more for birthdays and Christmas.</p>
<p>We do a big deal on Father’s day. It’s a tradition in our house that my husband is king of the world on Father’s day. He can select all meals for the entire day, he can watch any and every sports event on TV and he can do whatever he wants – or nothing at all.</p>
<p>I call my dad, rarely see him on the actual day. We do breakfast in bed for my dh, and the kids make cards and get him a present. I make him his favorite pie. We definitely mark the day, but not in some huge way.</p>
<p>I prefer to give gifts, then receive…that said, i recently came across some cards my kids made 15+ years ago, and appreciated them more now, then at that time…i don’t consider Mothers Day or Fathers Day ’ greeting card holidays…</p>
<p>My dad died when I was in my 30s. I wear two rings that he always wore. Even though its been over 20 years since he died, I take a few moments on Father’s Day to look at his old college and law school photos in the yearbooks from the early 1930s.</p>
<p>My S has been really good about making contact with me about Father’s Day since he graduated from HS (and now college). He has been gone out of state and out of the country most of those years and has remebered to call or skype.</p>
<p>I’m not my W’s Father, although before my S graduated from hs my W (who is not his mother) reminded my S about Father’s Day (I think).</p>
<p>We (wife and I) get each other cards from OUR kids (the three cats) on our respective Days. Sometimes the cats get my W a bottle of Moet.</p>
<p>Father’s day is mostly for kids to rmember, mother’s day is for both kids and a spouse to remember. My opinion is based on fact that WE ARE NOT EQUAL, no such thing would be permitted, no way. For a spouse, Mothers’ day is “red roses” day, Father’s day is “Happy father’s day!” day.</p>
<p>^^ someone translate, please.</p>
<p>DH usually has some activity he’s interested in doing around that time and the girls take him. Some years it is a golf tourney or a round with his girls (1 caddy, 1 drink girl). Other years he wanted to go up north fishing. It’s his day, so he gets to do what he wants.</p>
<p>This year he wants to go to the Izod Indy car race here in Milwaukee (he grew up in Indy and his father took them every year), so the girls got online and ordered tickets for the 4 of us. I will be bringing ear plugs and the kindle. He will have a GREAT time.</p>
<p>It means that the mom in that house gets fussed over while the dad is an after thought because they aren’t equal.</p>
<p>In my house, we weren’t equal this year. My husband is getting his usual “day” but we bought dining room furniture that I chose over Mother’s day weekend this year. I guess I’m more special.</p>
<p>my father died when I was 17, & I don’t have much of a relationship with H’s family. 
This year will be busy, we will be seeing both the girls as older D is receiving her masters degree and we are all visting for a few days. She’s also hosting a brunch on Sunday, but I had impression it was to celebrate graduation,I had forgotten all about Fathers day.
I might get H a nightie if I have energy after shopping for presentable mom clothes.
(for me to wear ;))</p>
<p>^^ is that what they call it now- a “nightie”? :)</p>
<p>I don’t usually sleep in anything, but I thought for the trip I might get something new.
Either that or my oversized “visualize Ballard” tshirt.</p>
<p>o7Dad,
How did you train you cat to select a good champagne? : > )</p>
<p>I get my hubby f-day gifts, pretty expensive ones for us in fact. In our house father’s day is bigger than mother’s day, but hubby is a pretty special father. He raised and homeschooled the kids while I worked. I know there are other dads who do that but in our circle he was the only one.</p>
<p>This year I’ve already given him two gifts and said “that’s your father’s day gift don’t expect anything else!” But I’ll probably get him something else anyway - plus I’m going to make him a carrot cake. I hate carrot cake and he loves it so it’s obviously just for him. And we’re taking his dad to church with us. I’m sure we’ll get him a gift too, and we might invite him over for some carrot cake :)</p>
<p>The girls usually get my husband some sort of gift. They love to do that even though my husband does not expect it. Husband is always king at our house , not just on Fathers’ day, he gets to watch sports all the time.</p>