Some of us don’t think she’s blowing up his world. There are many good posters on other threads discussing their high achievers’ change of plans because the dream schools didn’t offer aid that made those colleges affordable. Their kids are dealing with it.
No, we don’t know the family’s true financial picture. And yes, they should have had their eyes open sooner. But as laid out, nothing says this kid deserves risking the family security for *this * college. We tell kids and families that all the time. What makes this case different?