<p>My girlfriend lives in a burb of Cleveland with a substantial gay popluation. She has many gay friends. That is fine. But she is like close with a couple of them and it strikes me as odd and perhaps makes me a little jealous. I do not drink anymore as many of you know, and when the gf is with me she will have a couple of drinks but never more than one or two. But when I am not there and she goes out with her gay male friends, she gets pretty drunk and sometimes crazy. She kisses them goodbye and stuff, and I have seen pictures of them like up real close and I know when they all get drunk they do the typical drunk friend stuff, but at how close do females usually get with gay guys? I know the typical answer would be: they are gay it doesn’t matter. But noone is 100% gay (or 100% straight for that matter) So am I being paranoid, or how close are gay guys and straight females usually.</p>
<p>paranoid much? if the guys are gay, they have no interest in your girlfriend. chill out.</p>
<p>A gay guy grabbing a boob is still a guy grabbing a boob, straight or gay.</p>
<p>Relax, joev. As Sigmund Freud once said, sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.</p>
<p>Yeah I guess you are right. This whole guys hanging around your girlfriend thing is new to me. It still does tilt my boat a little bit, but I guess it will pass in time.</p>
<p>Joev, you’re 28. Why are you hanging around here?</p>
<p>I have nothing better to do at work. To tell you the truth, I don’t actually remember how I stumbled upon this message board, but it was about 2 years ago when I was still in college, and I have been hooked ever since.</p>
<p>relaxxx. gay guys and girls are historically extremely close. ever heard of the term ■■■ hag? nothing ever happens though (beyond making out - when extremely drunk). gay = , not interested in girls!</p>
<p>Actually, girls should get to hang out with their straight male friends as well. In civilized environments, women are not viewed as possessions.</p>
<p>^^^what are you talking about TD?</p>
<p>Thanks, TheDad. 
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<p>I think he’s talking about the fact that respectable young men do not grab the chests of their female friends, regardless of sexual orientation. Nice young ladies do not allow their male friends (or boyfriends, for that matter) to grab their chests in public, regardless of level of intoxication.</p>
<p>~Aries, the 20-something conservative</p>
<p>I don’t know if he meant that, I still don’t know what TDs comment has to do with this thread.
I would say I plead the fifth on that one, but I am guilty as all hell.</p>
<p>You can plead the fifth and be guilty. The Constitution doesn’t reserve that for the innocent. ;)</p>
<p>There is a subgroup of women who do not get along well with other women and prefer the company of men–and some of them prefer gay men as friends as they tend to be more fun and they don’t have to worry about unwanted attention. I know several women like this.</p>
<p>JoeV, you’re bothered by your gf hanging out with her gay male friends. It shouldn’t bother you any more if they were straight. Women get to keep, sustain, and make new relationships with males besides their bf/spouse. Really. Implicit in your post is an attitude that only because the guys in the scenario are gay make it remotely acceptable.</p>
<p>It never bothered me that she hung out with gay guys. What bothered me was the drunken escapades (partially because I am sober now) that ended up with her making out with one of them and a couple times her getting felt up. I would rather she hang out with gay guys than straight guys believe me, because I know how straight guys act. It just struck me as odd how cavalier she was in tellling me things like this, that was the original point of my thread, to find out if this sort of thing was unusual. I guess it is not that unusual, so my question was answered and the thread is closed. I don’t know why you put words in my mouth TD, but that was never implied or even touched upon.</p>