<p>yah but when u look @ a boss in the eye it keeps them from treating you like $.h.i.t., they’ll know u mean business and won’t back down if they BS you.</p>
<p>When I have long conversations its kind of hard not to stray from eye contact just because it doesn’t actually help understand what they are saying and it sometimes distracts me because I’ll notice their eyes moving or whatnot. Also, its preferable to be aware of my surroundings so standing and looking at someones face for a length of time is just awkward. </p>
<p>What I prefer to do is give them initial eye contact and then give them intervals of eye contact to let them know I’m still paying attention. Straight up eye contact is just inconvenient and awkward for the most part and I don’t see it as a sign of disrespect. I believe society is just changing its preference, its not a sign of intimidation or homophobia.</p>
<p>Im a guy, and i can say that it is weird to look a guy in the eye. Plus it is awkward if i guy does it, cause it seems gay.
Now with girls, when they are gorgeous, it is sometimes pretty hard to look them in the eye because their beauty is so intimidating (i dont look them in the eye cause for some reason they are too good looking, not because im a perv looking at their body)</p>
<p>But i try to look em in the eye, especially if i like them.</p>
<p>^^^that’s the key bigtwix, a hot chick knows she’s intimidating, so when you look them in the eye it shakes their confidence, and makes you seem confident enough for them, and as if it doesn’t matter whether or not they’re into you…then they try and get into you…or u into them…;)</p>
<p>so thats what i try and do. Look em in the eye no matter how hard it is.</p>
<p>Preface: I am male.</p>
<p>I’m very “counter-culture” when it comes to more subtle things like this.</p>
<p>It’s funny because in terms of outward appearance, I’m a straight up preppy abercrombie kid. Yet I detest MTV, can’t stand conspicuous “alpha-male” displays of masculinity. I always look the person I’m speaking to in the eye (including other guys of course), and I stand closer to people when I talk than most of my friends would.</p>
<p>Edit: I can’t help but laughing at how everyone thinks this is “GAY”…You people are so ridiculous, it’s hilarious!!!</p>
<p>this is how it goes, i always look people in the eye, but if a guy looks me back in the eye, i punch them</p>
<p>^^^hahahaha. I seriously LOLed on ur post cricket stud.</p>
<p>When I’m just walking around, if someone looks at me (girl or guy) I look right back at them and coyly smile, just to be nice and show that I’m not staring them down. =] It’s not always flirting.</p>
<p>I try looking people in the eyes as much as possible but sometimes it kind of hurts, if that makes any sense.</p>
<p>I have never really given any thought to this. I guess I look people in the eye a lot, because well I would hate it if someone is looking up at the sky and talking to me or at the ground… its just rude and irritating. My guy friends look me in the eye, so I dont know whether it really is a guy thing or not. But I have noticed that guys dont usually tend to look guys in the eye, but they do look girls in the eye. Iono… i like to see peoples eyes… eyes are pretty… better looking then someone’s mouth or nose…</p>
<p>Well, I’m not a guy but personally I have a hard time looking people in the eyes when I talk because I’m insecure and shy. I feel like the other person is looking at my every flaw and judging me and I do get intimidated, male or female, so I look away. It doesn’t help but I can’t see them staring at me any longer. The only people I do look in the eyes are my friends that I’ve been friends with for years now.</p>
<p>It’s a hard habit to break. I used to be very bad about that, but i’ve forced myself to look people in the eye whenever possible, because I know what sort of messages doing so conveys to the other person (confidence, attentiveness, maybe even intelligence?)</p>
<p>I still have some problems with it. I often get the urge to dart my eyes when someone is talking with me for a minute or more. The biggest problem for me is speaking to someone while maintaining eye contact. I find it difficult to gather my thoughts and carry a conversation along with talking while staring someone in the eyes, so I tend to look to the side when i’m responding. Still trying to reign that in.</p>