<p>I’m talking about college boys and younger. They also tend not to cross their legs. However, older men, especially high-profile leaders, do both. How come?</p>
<p>I read it in a book, guys tend to be intimidated by guys who look at them in the eye, like a dog and there territory/// on the other hand women love the eye contact/</p>
<p>Only guys who are intimidated, scared, or shy can’t look other guys in the eye. I was always taught that you look someone in the eye anytime they speak to you and you don’t look down or away. Personally, I feel slightly disrespected when someone looks down while I’m talking to them. As for crossing the legs, guys don’t do it because it is a feminine thing to do. Why older men have no problem doing it, I am not sure. I guess it is just a generational gap in our thinking.</p>
<p>its also alot harder for guys to cross their legs. There’s stuff in the way…</p>
<p>When I walk by other people, sometimes I look at girls to check them out, so that’s where the eye contact comes into play. With guys, however, it’s just weird, and I try to look straight forward to avoid any eye contact with guys.</p>
<p>When I talk to another person, I will make eye contact no matter what. It’s simply a sign of respect. I notice that some people wouldn’t look at me in the eye when we talk (always guys, never girls). I can feel that they’re slightly intimidated by me, but I’m not even that intimidating of a person.</p>
<p>Crossing legs is just perceived to be feminine. I’ve crossed my legs when I was younger, but then some kid asked, “why do yous it like a girl?” Since then, I stopped crossing my legs.</p>
<p>I think thats just the way the two sexes are wired. We did an experiment in psychology once where we observed two guys talk to e/o in front of the class and then we observed two girls. Guys don’t look e/o in the eyes and are more physical, while girls look e/o in the eyes.</p>
<p>i tend not to look at blue or gray eyes. they’re kind of weird.</p>
<p>hey! i have a habit of crossing my legs. and i don’t look into other guys’ eyes, but at them. but, for a very shy girl, i would do both and couple others such as beat on the drums to show off my musical sense.</p>
<p>i always wondred…what’s the difference between brown eyes and black eyes? if ur eyes are really black, that means ur pupils can’t be distinguished. actually all dark eyes look similar.</p>
<p>b/c if you look them in the eyes it implies you are checking htem out and may be considered “gay”. i mean lets say you’re walking and you walk past a girl and you both look each other in the eyes (oh yea im a guy) you would think “hey was she checking me out?”. for a guy to a guy when you walk past and look at each other in the eye one of you may think “why is he looking at me, is he in to me? talk about gay…”
i mean you usually only look people in the eye if you’re having one hell of an argument with them or are into them.</p>
<p>Even guys who are comfortable with each other STILL don’t look each other in the eye. </p>
<p>Actually, I believe that guys who find each other intimidating (presuming they know they themselves are intimidating) look each other in the eye with greater vigor and ferocity. If guy 1 is with a girl, and another guy looks at his girl and guy 1 catches him, guy 1 and the other guy enter a staring match.</p>
<p>tennisfan, what about a one-to-one conversation? I realize that looking at each other in passing in the streets is different. </p>
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<p>but what about the older men? their “stuff” are bigger, yet they cross their legs more.</p>
<p>Well, I’m not a guy but personally I have a hard time looking people in the eyes when I talk because I’m insecure and shy. I feel like the other person is looking at my every flaw and judging me and I do get intimidated, male or female, so I look away. It doesn’t help but I can’t see them staring at me any longer. The only people I do look in the eyes are my friends that I’ve been friends with for years now.</p>
<p>I look down when I walk a lot too, I hate making eye contact with random people. Guys a lot of times smile and think I was checking them out, and girls think I’m staring them down and give me this disgusted look.</p>
<p>I know since I’m not a guy, all of that was useless, but maybe its the same as how guys do feel. ;P</p>
<p>It’s simple. Some guys see looking at another guy in the eye as “dogging” or disrespecting them them and thus they start fights. Thats all it really is.</p>
<p>i think the intimdiation thing is more between girls and girls. about one on one conversations, yea in my exp. even then we dont really look each other in the eyes if its just a casual conversation. however when we’re like trying to get a point across or arguing thatas when we look each other in the eye. but heck, i guess it just varies between people to people, outgoing and shy.</p>
<p>Between guys it has little to do with gayness, IMO. I think it is more of a “You got a problem?” thing.</p>
<p>It’s not that I find it confrontational per se. It can be, but for me it’s just uncomfortable. Someone who just stares you in the eye is kind of weird, IMO.</p>
<p>See… In east asian culture, it might be disrespectful to look at someone in the eyes. Growing up with 4 adults in the house, I ind of got used to not looking at people’s eyes–I’d just looked at their nose, or next to their eyes, or on their mouth/jaw. However, I’ve been getting better at this (and I don’t know any guys that get “intimidated” by eye contact while talking).</p>
<p>I’m with sungchul. I am still getting over it too, so I don’t really look anyone in the eye yet.</p>
<p>Okay, so are we talking about looking into the persons eyes when you’re talking to him?
Or simply in the street or in a bar or anything?</p>
<p>Because the first is mandatory, a solid handshake and looking into someone’s eyes is a sign of confidence and good personality.
The second one might be a bit gay or provocative, yes…</p>
<p>I hate it when people don’t give me eye contact when I’m talking. In class, I find it a little annoying that most people aren’t even looking up at the teacher, most of which aren’t busy taking notes.</p>
<p>If I’m walking down a street, it’s a different thing. I usually get paranoid and wonder why the hell that guy was looking at me.</p>
<p>Regarding walking eye contact, I go to a huge crowded university and probably make eye contact with dozens of people a day: Male, female, young, old, attractive, unattractive. I do it to scan my surroundings and size people up. It can get exhausting in large crowds but in sparsely populated areas its fun.
So eye contact is not only flirting.</p>
<p>But for most people it is. Especially prolonged eye contact, and smiling.</p>
<p>Eye contact is intimidating, especially if you’re talking to a superior. But that’s just my opinion. I just started a job and I find that I can’t look my manager in the eyes but I have no problem interacting with my supervisor (who’s under the supervision of the manager).</p>