how did you come up with your long term goals?

<p>i never understood how someone could just decide they wanted to be a doctor, a lawyer, whatever, and spend many years studying before they even get to practice the job. and i don’t think internships really help all that much either. you get mainly busy work, and that makes it even harder to decide whether you want to do it or not, b/c you’ll feel like that’s what you’ll be stuck doing. </p>

<p>anyway, i know i want to accomplish something. i want to be something, and love it, and be dedicated to it. i don’t want to be a jack of all trades. i’d rather be really good at one thing. there’s many small things i know i should/want to do. like take on internships, volunteer, go to grad school, etc. but i really don’t know what it should be for. this is really depressing me. i get even more depressed when i see someone really good at what they do, and they love it. i want to be like that too. </p>

<p>there are a few things i like, and i’m not too shabby at it. but as for a long term goal or career, i don’t know what it should be. how can i find out what i want to do for a long long while? how did you find out anyway?</p>

<p>This is such a good question. My D think she knows exactly and passionately what she wants to do and it matches (I think) her strengths. I’m very happy she has a goal to focus on right now, and it serves her well, but I also know it’s not possible for her to know if she’d really love doing that as her life’s profession. I know her dreams are likely to evolve with experience and maturity. </p>

<p>Most successful adults I know ended up doing something unrelated to their original career goals (and are very happy!). They didn’t predict their future in highschool or when they entered college. People who love what they do let it emerge as they matured. </p>

<p>There is too much pressure to ‘find one’s passion’ and so early! It’s crazy. It’s a long journey. All you can do is follow your interests NOW (and it’s OKAY if they aren’t passions!). But recognize they may change, and perhaps definitely should change! I believe the current generation will have many different careers in their life and that’s okay too. Most of us are not exposed to most career options, and new career paths and fields come into existence over time. </p>

<p>I went into college thinking I would be one thing and took a liberal arts degree. I then chose my major a few years later based on what courses I liked most. That was it. It was not based on how much I would make, what job I would get, what my parents wanted me to do. So I had it easy. I spent a few years between the end of one degree and the next, and the next, following my interests and viola, I have a career I really love and am good at it too. There is no way in a million years I would or could have known about this career in advance, or plotted out my success it in well before I started. It’s more like I trusted myself to go into a forest that was beautiful, and carved out a trail in that forest that worked perfectly for me. But I’m sure there were other beautiful forests or trails I could have made as well.</p>

<p>Internships can teach you a lot if you look around and open your eyes to what others are doing even if your own work isn’t that interesting. I’ve had a number of jobs where I learned for sure I’d never want to do anything like this (work on capital hill, teaching) and others that were fun, but I didn’t end up pursuing (working at a magazine, working at a library). I fell into what I am doing because I lived with a family in France that was passionate about architecture and it seemed like a good fit - I was good at math and art and like working with people and get bored doing the same thing all the time. </p>

<p>Most college career centers have vocational aptitude tests that may help point you in a good direction. It’s not the end of the world to change careers or try out a few different things while you are still young.</p>

<p>When I went to teachers’ college in the l990’s, they said to teach h.s. students for the next generation that they’d have 3 consecutive, unrelated. identifiable careers in their long-expected lifetimes.</p>

<p>About half the adults I know have done “one thing” their entire life, while the other half bob-and-weave, retrain, take another degree at age 40 to shift directions. </p>

<p>In general, the “one thing” path results in higher achievement, salary and status, within and without the profession. But they also express some tedium, too, because of no change. They notice changes within their professions, however. </p>

<p>Some people look for professions with some different jobs within the field. My SIL, a nurse, has worked in a hospital, drug rehab center for teens, and finally as a school nurse. She made that last shift to match her schedule with her own daughters as they entered their school years. </p>

<p>Lawyers can work in private practice, government or a nonprofit organization.
Clergy can work as prison, hospital or college chaplains, or have their own congregation. </p>

<p>One way people stay interested in their profession is to try out a few moves within that same profession, in the course of a lifelong career. </p>

<p>If/when you get to college, sometimes they have workshops at the Career Center where you can take a personality inventory or ask to set up a meeting with the counselor there. These can help you identify your “fit” in terms of career choice. Ask if they have alumni with whom you can correspond by email in various professions. The computer is a remarkable tool that we didn’t have to help research many professions before choosing.</p>

<p>My guess is you will know it when you hear of it. You might want to research some unusual professions. It feels like an inner stirring when you read about the work possible in that career, and intutively feel, “YESS! I could do that, I have strengths and intutitions in that direction, it sounds interesting…”</p>

<p>I believe in a “calling” to a career. Do research, don’t just try to dream it out of the air. As you read, let yourself imagine doing those things and see if something makes the blood pound faster because you’re intrigued or enthused.</p>

<p>One problem for young people is they haven’t seen enough professions in action. You know your teachers, doctors, the school nurse, whatever your parents do. You see some people in the community doing law enforcement or running small businesses. But you don’t know what’s going on behind all those closed doors in corporate offices, or in a government agency. It just looks like…desks and elevators. So you need to research.</p>

<p>Try reading the US Department of Labor, Occupational Outlook. It describes mnany careers, though manages to make each sound deadly dull. </p>

<p>Then go to a bookstore like Borders or Barnes and Noble just to read (don’t buy if you have strong feet…) some classics like “What Color Is My Parachute” (or your parachute?). That book is more than l0 years old; there is surely newer stuff on careers to scan in the bookstore.</p>