How did you meet your spouse/partner?

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H and I met in grad school. We both worked in the student dining hall. I was the student manager, in charge of the student schedule and student pay roll.

He came to me halfway through our first year working together and told me that I had him scheduled to work a dinner shift and he had a night class starting at 6 pm that night. I said yeah so, you have worked that shift that night all term, why are you just now telling me it’s a conflict. He said he had an exam that night and didn’t want to be late to class.

I filled his shift that night, deciding that the extra money would be just fine on my pay check.

Our manager said she would only approve me covering the shift if H took me out to dinner to thank me. We never arranged that date until a several weeks later after she bugged us so much we did it to make her shut up. She may have even threatened to fire both of us, though we knew she wouldn’t do that.

He did finally take me out and our former manager is our D’s god mother. Our 27th anniversary is in June.

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She was living in DC. I’d just bought a 3BR house in Berkeley. She had a business meeting in SF and wanted to stay after for the following weekend. A mutual friend knew I had a spare room and asked if I could put her up. I said sure, and had a good time showing her around SF, the wine country, Pt. Reyes, etc. Thought she was pretty great and felt down when I didn’t even get a thank you note. :frowning: She called a few months later, apologized profusely, said she had another meeting, and asked if she could stay again. Sucker that I am, I said sure. :slight_smile: We had a great time. She quit her job and moved across country two months later. We’ve been married for 30 years.

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I finally got around to reading more threads than my schedule usually allows. This one has been interesting.

Add me to those who met in college. I thought my H was a real jerk after our first date (confirmed by his getting the senior superlative of “Most Likely to Get Shot by His Own Troops” later that year). But he had money and I was pretty darn poor. He kept inviting me out to eat and considering my other option was the dining hall in the days of “What do you suppose this is?” I accepted. That led to long walks, hikes, and even traveling together. His “By the RULES!!!” stance softened considerably (Cupid probably does wonders) and while he’s still Type A overall, he’s also learned to enjoy going with the flow as my Type B self does. The vast, vast majority of people love him now and can’t believe he won that award. (It’s a great one to use in the Two Truths and a Lie game.)

We’ll celebrate 30 years of being Happily married this summer. No plans to change and no regrets.

I tell the kids I married for money. :wink: (It wasn’t “for” the money since we’re hardly wealthy and have had our paycheck to paycheck moments (years?), but let’s face it… if his aunt/uncle hadn’t sent him spending money in college I would never have considered a second date with him.)