<p>no some were bothered but dealt with it</p>
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<p>Exactly. Those are the types of girls who were probably easy.</p>
<p>no just drunk</p>
<p>Hotel room is definitely my second option but cheap motels seem to be hard to come by in La Jolla. I’m hoping she finds a friend who she’ll want to spend the night with. XP He’ll probably come stay 3 or 4 times this school year and I’ll be staying with him during breaks and holidays.</p>
<p>But if she told me she was uncomfortable, that would be okay. I just don’t want to get off on the wrong foot with her immediately.</p>
<p>I would suggest a thr…err…maybe not</p>
<p>k well my roommate was a big jerk about her boyfriend coming over like 5 to 7 weekends per quarter. they would be in bed while i was in the room, trying to make freaking phone calls. He would be there when I was trying to get ready for class on fri or thur that she would bring him until mon afternoons so i had to go change in the restrooms and generally not be comfortable cuz he didnt even make the effort to become friends or anything. </p>
<p>@ OP- don’t be a ****** yourself, your roommates need to study, be comfortable in their room, you’re their roommate, not you and your bf. Ask them if it’s ok and coordinate so that it’s never on weekends that they have a midterms/big assignment the next week. Be super considerate because even though I sound like ****** with everything I’ve written above, I’ve said yes to my roommates last minute “oh yeah my boyfriend is coming over tomorrow and staying over for 4 days” even though I died a little inside.</p>
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<p>I honestly thought I was the only person who thought this until I saw that post. THANK YOU for saying that.</p>
<p>It wouldn’t surprise me if your roommate was fine with your boyfriend over, but definitely talk to her and let her know she has a choice in the matter. She’s paying just as much for the room as you are, so she should feel as comfortable in there as you do. If she’s against your boyfriend sleeping in there, just get a hotel. This is coming from someone whose roommate did invite her boyfriend over without warning (thought it was more nightly than once every few months), and it bothered me to no end because I had never met the guy and they were going at it several feet from my bed.</p>
<p>[And if you feel the urge to get frisky with your boyfriend during the visit, for God’s sake, PLEASE get the hotel room.]</p>
<p>Can’t he just sleep on the couch in your suite? There shouldn’t be a problem with that right?</p>
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<p>The question is not whether the OP “should” have the right to bring him over, the question is whether the OP actually does.</p>
<p>I imagine most schools would say that if anyone in the room would rather a guest not be there, that takes precedence over anyone desiring that the person stay. In other words, the OP has no such right.</p>
<p>Finally, the roommate is paying to be able to sleep in the room feeling safe and comfortable, as is the OP. Unfortunately, the housing contract doesn’t include provisions for feeling uncomfortable without one’s significant other, so her boyfriend isn’t really covered by the contract</p>
<p>You don’t bring it up. Dump the guy because a long distance relationship during college is redundant.</p>
<p>Good advice, guys. I’ll definitely make sure she understands she has the choice. And it might not be a bad idea for him to crash on the couch in the common area.</p>
<p>Oh, and cabhax, trust me, three and a half years ago, I told my boyfriend the same thing. But now that the time has come, we realize that it’s too serious to let go of. He’s transferring here next year, we’re just trying to work things out in the mean time.</p>
<p>It sounds like you’ve got a hold on the situation. Good for you for caring about your roommates comfort with the situation.</p>