<p>So I know who my roommate is now and she doesn’t seem like the type to bring guys over for the night or even date at all. My boyfriend will be living 6 hours away and can only visit every month or two. The only problem there is where he’ll be sleeping. I was thinking of finding a male friend who wouldn’t mind my bf staying with him but I would prefer of course if he could just stay with me. How do I bring this subject up without her thinking, “Oh god, I got THAT roommate?!”</p>
<p>If your roommate doesn’t like it, then don’t bring the subject up.</p>
<p>Why don’t you get a hotel room if he’s only coming every month or tow?</p>
<p>just be like hey, so my boyfriend is visiting and i was wondering if he could stay in the room as we dont get to see each other often</p>
<p>Ask. She has veto power in all likelihood (depending on school rules).</p>
<p>awkward moment</p>
<p>$50 for a hotel room. Money well worth spent.</p>
<p>I would talk to her honestly, but make sure she knows she has a choice. If she brings up concerns, address them, or try to reach a compromise–and go for the hotel room if she imposes an absolute veto.</p>
<p>idk if your roommate somehow said you couldnt have your bf over, she would have to be the biggest dusch bag. Normally if one of my roommates had a girl over, i would tell them I’m down to leave the room if you want me to and just text me or something to let me know when its ok to come back. idk I think by college people should respect their roomies lifes as long as it doesn’t hurt their studying time or something which most likely wouldn’t.</p>
<p>How many times is your boyfriend going to visit? Maybe 2 times at the most?</p>
<p>Split the cost of the hotel room for both visits with your boyfriend and you’ll maybe be down $50-$60. You will have privacy with your boyfriend and you won’t have to put your roommate in an uncomfortable situation.</p>
<p>wow, as a guy my roommate never had a problem with my girl coming over and i never had a problem with him having a girl over, i guess girls are different when it comes to this situation.</p>
<p>Try for a threesome.</p>
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<p>As a quid pro quo situation, it would work, but the OP stated that the roommmate doesn’t seem like the type to bring guys over for the night or even date at all. Why should the roommate be inconvenienced when the OP can get a hotel room and dodge the issue all together?</p>
<p>why cant the other girl just sleep in the room. we never had a problem with my roommate sleeping in the room after we were done with fun and such.</p>
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<p>Why should she have to if they can just get a hotel room?</p>
<p>Just bring it up straight and make sure she’s hears the entire situation before making a decision. Who knows, </p>
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<p>it is the OPs room as well so she should have the right to have him over as long as it does not go against school rules</p>
<p>I think it is common decency to give the roommate veto power regardless of school rules. Not all women are comfortable with going to bed with an unfamiliar man in the room.</p>
<p>I would just be straightforward. My roommate and I both had boyfriends the summer before we lived together and it was one of the first things she brought up. She just asked how I felt about co-ed sleepovers, because she had a boyfriend and would like to have him over. We agreed that we could have boyfriends over if the other roommate had a place to stay. My fiance stayed over a lot because she went home almost every weekend. I went over to his place a lot to give her the opportunity to have someone over but I don’t think she ever bothered. Exceptions could be made in the event of an emergency, but the preferred course of action in that situation was to request lounge access from the front desk. This compromise worked for us, you will have to work out your own compromise. Your roommate may be totally fine with it, you won’t know until you ask. She shouldn’t be offended just because you asked.</p>
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That’s exactly what I was thinking.</p>
<p>i guess. my girlfriend was never uncomfortable and most of the girls my roommate had over were not uncomfortable either.</p>
<p>If they were the type to be bothered by it they wouldn’t have come to sleep over, would they?</p>