<p>Sorry guys, btw i’m not from america lol. I live in canada. I just wanna ask how to convince them to study away from my hometown. I wanna study in University of Alberta it is in Edmonton. currently I live in calgary now. if u wanna study there u’ll have to travel like 2 to 3 hours. my mom didn’t let me to study there cuz it’s far, she is worried about, and she thinks that I can’t take care of myself. the truth is i’m 19 now supposed to be I graduated last year but my credits didn’t accept in the school I’m attending now and I still have 1 year in highschool so I’m 20 when I graduate… my reason for studying there are I wanna be independent, it has good education, experience to be in the other city, and learn how hard resposibility is. I don’t wanna be a kid forever and depend on them until I graduate college.</p>
<p>help how to convince them for me to able to study on that university. I feel i’m in a cage, or kinda feel i’m suffocating from what they are doing now. i always need to be obey them and always ask them whenever i go out. at least I wanna ready for the next phase in my life. I wanna show them that I am able to take care of myself. sometimes I wanna cry about this. I am only doing this for them and help them after I graduate college. cuz the long I stay here the more I want to depend on them.</p>
<p>Can you pay for all of your studies at one of those universities without any money from your parents? Then you can go there. But if you need your parents’ help to pay for your studies, then you will have to study someplace that they approve of.</p>
<p>You need to talk with your patents, and find out why they think you should study where you live right now. Maybe it is all your family can afford. Or maybe they don’t think you are ready to live on your own. If that is the case, you can work on your independent living skills, so that they can be confident that you will be fine on your own.</p>
<p>Well, I can apply a student loan for my expenses(tuition and rent probably groceries too) and I can apply for job there while I’m studying to have an extra income. This upcoming summer I am going to find a job and use that for them to agree I hope. Actually she agreed about applying a student loan but didn’t agree to study away for college.</p>
<p>In such cases it is a mistake to ask for permission. If you can support yourself fully (and don’t need parental signature for loan, etc.), then make your preparations and go.</p>
<p>It’s worth noting that customs re university attendance differ between Canada and US. In Canada the norm is to commute from the family home to the local university. (This doesn’t apply to rural dwellers of course, but they are a smaller portion of the population than in the US).</p>
<p>The truth is likely that she’s not comfortable with you being away, not that she thinks you can’t handle it. Add into the mix, as the other poster said, the norm in Canada is more to go to the local university rather than ‘away’ to college to ‘grow’. </p>
<p>You might ask her, what could you do to ‘prove to her’ you are ready to live on your own? What might happen in the next year? </p>
<p>Another idea might be a compromise solution- go to U of C or Mount Royal for a year, or two years, and then get their blessing to transfer.</p>
<p>Alternatively, you might see if you can make it on your own and possibly present this as your plan if they aren’t amenable to the above ideas. Unfortunately I think the rules are such that you would not qualify for loans without your parent’s involvement (and not if they can afford your education). See this link as but one example:</p>
<p>Even at 19, you need to be out of highschool for 2 years before you’d be considered independent and able to get student loans separate from your parents financial situation. And a summer job is not going to cut it. If you can really be on your own, you can look this stuff up and run the numbers. </p>
<p>But if this is important really to you, you might consider it-- venture out on your own (LOTS of jobs in Alberta right now, without a college education), and cover your education with student loans after working for two years. It would be a sign of real independence you are looking for.</p>
<p>You might start by acting like a house guest instead of a teen (A house guest is what an adult child at home should be). Make sure you are getting yourself up, handling your own laundry, contributing by making meals or doing dishes. In short, Mom should be singing your praises everyday about what a wonderful, helpful soul you are. Don’t wait to be asked to do tasks. Mow the lawn. Empty the garbage. Wash the car. </p>
<p>You may be already doing all these things – if so, congrats, you are a rare bird. Too often we have grown offspring lounging about on the sofa while Mom staggers in with the groceries and has to ask for assistance. And then the teen/twenty wonders why he/she isn’t getting treated like an adult.</p>