<p>She has a bit of an attitude so I don’t want to tick her off although she is nice sometimes. What is a nice way to phrase something that you don’t want her to do?</p>
<p>You create a lot of threads…</p>
<p>Anyways, ask yourself whether it is worthwhile to maybe **** her off for the rest of the year. </p>
<p>If you don’t want her to do something (eat your food, sit on your bed etc.), just use your 2nd grade honed skill of being friendly about it.</p>
<p>Some elaboration on the problem may be required for us to help, though jojomonkey’s may not be that far off. A lot of the time you’re just stuck putting up with the blighter.</p>
<p>Well the thing is…I offered to let her have my food/drinks and she keeps taking my drinks. Like if it was once a week or so, I wouldn’t mind. So I guess it’s my fault. The other thing is that she drinks like half of them and leaves it or she’ll throw away stuff that’s on my desk like half full water bottles. Or she’ll use my stuff without asking and if she did ask…how would I say no without being a complete b*tch back?</p>
<p>It sounds more as though she’s being inconsiderate than b*tchy, honestly.</p>
<p>I’d say to just tell her - calmly, casually, and politely (within the bounds of casually) - that when you said she could have your drinks, you didn’t think she’d be taking advantage of it in this kind of volume. If you’re actually paying on a per-drink basis when you get them, tell her it’s costing you a lot of money. If you’re not, tell her where you’re getting them and that it’s inconvenient having to restock so frequently.</p>
<p>The desk thing, you can just straight up say (politely, of course) that you’d rather she didn’t touch stuff on your desk.</p>
<p>Basically, just be…well, diplomatic about it. If she gets ****ed off in response, then there’s a problem, but I managed to coexist with a comparably annoying guy for all of Freshman year and while I can’t say I’d regard us as friends or particular WANT to be around him, we didn’t part on bad terms.</p>
<p>That sounds good. Yeah, I mean it’s hard to bring a big case of drinks up to my room and it’s like… she has money (A LOT) so she can buy her own. I’ll tell her to use meal points or pay for it. I don’t know when to do it. Lol like if I do it while we’re studying, then it’ll be awkward to sit with her for another hour. Should I do it on my way out? She takes it when I’m not there so I can’t do it when I see her taking it since I never do.</p>
<p>leave notes on the stuff she would take so she knows you know. If the object with the note is missing, then confront her in a polite, calm way, explaining that you did not think she would take advantage of your offer like this. </p>
<p>If she rebuttles, say she needs to pay for them from now on. If there’s further disagreement, you need to keep your stuff on lock and if she takes it then there are consequences…or bring it up with the RA.</p>
<p>It won’t be awkward - or, in the unlikely event that it is, it’ll be worth it. Trust me, no reasonable person is going to blow up at you over this. I wouldn’t recommend telling her to get her own; just say you’d rather she didn’t take so many of yours.</p>
<p>I strongly disagree with sllamas1’s suggestion, as it will make you look like a passive-aggressive/conniving pain in the ass.</p>
<p>i told her. lol went fine.</p>
<p>Best of luck daynight, I hope your issue gets resolved! But other than this issue, you are having fun at Berkeley right? I actually like it here a lot! (So far anyway lol)</p>
<p>Thank you! Yeah it’s resolved unless she decides to do it again. I hope she’s not reading this! I don’t think she would though lol. Although I don’t think she’d do it if I asked her not to but who knows…people are so unpredictable. She seemed sincere when I told her though. YES I love berkeley lol. I have my ups and downs but anyone can tell that I’m so much happier here than anywhere before! I just met up with somebody I knew from CalSO and she kind of just made my day because she is just super friendly and interested in the same things that I am. It’s so refreshing. I had a friend over the summer who was the like that but turned out to be a b*tch in the end. And then I apologized for what SHE did and she made it sound like I was immature and mean about it when she was the one who was. I just wanted to be friends again but she said that back and so I was like whatever. Then she texted me to meet up and let’s just say…I have no desire to hang out with people who are thaat low. drama? i know. sorry. I’m not usually like that. people make me have to deal with stupid stuff like that.</p>
<p>i’m such a scardy cat. : / i get like anxiety lol</p>
<p>to jonnosferatu, that’s what I am! lol. just the way we did things in our room last year I guess. We left sticky notes for the others since they can be so funny when taken in the correct context.</p>
<p>glad it worked out for you daynnight.</p>
<p>Just be glad you’re not the girl from the Parent’s Forum whose roommate peed on her bed at night while she was out. I read that last night and I still can’t understand how anyone could possibly be that stupid.</p>
<p>Gotta say, that tops my roommate apparently some favors under the covers while the other two of us were trying to sleep.</p>
<p>hahahahaha where is this thread i must see.
you could’ve gone one of two ways: get all up in her face or be polite :D</p>
<p>daynnight, I think I might’ve met you in real life, but I’m not sure.</p>
<p>Anyway, the best way, from my experience, to solve a problem like this is to really lay down the law from the beginning.
Or else, things continue, and they will continue to suck. If anything bothers you, you should voice your opinion while you guys are still figuring out your roommate relationship and rules.
If you let things slide off your back now, you’ll regret it in the future, trust me. </p>
<p>It doesn’t matter at what exact moment you say it, just be sure to tell her as politely as you can, but be bold and frank, don’t beat around the bush. Some people still won’t get the picture.</p>
<p>Y’know, this is really the kind of thread in which one should probably read through to the most recent post to determine whether or not responses to the OP are even remotely warranted.</p>
<p>Just saying.</p>
<p>Ask the RA for help, make it clear in the roommate agreement of your expectations for each other</p>