<p>She is successful. She obviously likes you. She probably thinks of you as a close friend.
Whatever you do, don’t burn your bridges. You never know when you’ll need to cross them.</p>
<p>Was post # 19 really necessary? I think not.</p>
<p>How tiresome! Does she listen to you as well, show interest in your life? Or is it just a monologue?</p>
<p>Is it possible she’s just really excited about what’s happening and assumes you’ll be excited for her? Or maybe she wants to “fire you up” with possibilities for money-making? Sounds like she may be the not-so-sensitive type, but rather the extreme-think-positive type? </p>
<p>I dunno, just a way to think about this that might help make a bridge between the two of you…</p>
<p>I hide their posts from Facebook.</p>
<p>^ definitely a good idea!</p>
<p>One of my siblings is just like this. It really grates on my nerves. We rarely have a conversation that doesn’t include how much money she has or what ‘sort of famous’ person she knows. Every doctor she has is ‘the best in the country’. Same goes for their financial advisors, etc, etc, etc. Everything is always ‘the best’. Her husband is the same way.</p>
<p>Underneath it all is someone who very insecure, has a terrible marriage and has crafted a life around constantly improving her status via material possessions, lifestyle choices and lots of plastic surgery. </p>
<p>Yes, she looks great and has a lot of money but sometimes it seems her life is all about looking for admiration and respect. Something she doesn’t get from her husband. I’ve recently decided that the best way for me to deal with it is to give her what she so desperately needs - lots of kudos and admiration. Everyone wants to feel they are ‘special’ to at least one other human being. As a counselor pointed out to me, she is looking for my approval and I should take that as a compliment and be generous in praising her. I have found when I do this, she tends to lower the volume of her bragging to some degree.</p>
<p>Momlive, that is very wise advice. From my limited understanding of the new treatments for personality disorders, consistent praise is balm to their wounded souls.</p>
<p>Hey, who among us doesn’t like constant praise??</p>
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<p>I totally agree. But there’s a big difference in enjoying being praised and even working toward goals that you know will bring you admiration (ie, staying fit) and having to * tell * people all the time how wonderful your life is in order to be admired. The tip off that it is coming from a place of insecurity is the constant talk about things like how much money they have, how everything they do or have is the best, how important the people they socialize with are, etc. They want to make sure you don’t miss the point that they are to be envied, respected and admired.</p>
<p>Of course. I was making a [poor] joke.</p>