OK–I am on a high as my DIL and I talked on the phone about our holiday trip and
when I said, “Night, Love You” she responded “Love YOU!” for the first time in 5 years.
I truly enjoy and like her. We had a very difficult beginning with a short relationship with S and DIL and
pregnancy. I have really really tried to make her welcome and to spend time withe her alone when they
visit or we visit.
So tonight I am happy.
That’s sweet, @oregon101. I’m happy for you.
Wish I had one.
It’s wonderful when rocky relationships sweeten and become loving! Congrats! At this point, no the closest I gave is a BIL, whom I get along very well with, as well as nieces, nephews and their spouses and fiancé. Our kids haven’t yet introduced us to anyone special in their lives—one day!
Yesterday my GF told me that she has felt hurt and that she understands that her DIL does not want
to spent time with her. She talked with her son about this and kinda got nowhere. No BIG issue between them.
I think of the different people my kids could have married–SO lucky!
And we all know that this can land any which way…
That said i have really worked hard to embrace DIL.
I am no doubt posting now as my own MIL has become so obviously unkind,
Not my path!!!
“She talked with her son about this and kinda got nowhere. No BIG issue between them.”
I think one shouldn’t put one’s own kids in the middle. It is a very awkward place to be.
“That said i have really worked hard to embrace DIL.”
Yes to this! I’m sure she notices and appreciates it. No DIL/SIL for me yet but I know what NOT to do. My own MIL has not been welcoming and accepting over the years and we do not have a close relationship.
I am fortunate in that my SIL is a terrific guy. Today is D and SIL’s 2nd wedding anniversary and I could not be happier.
My DIL is a doll, as is my future DIL. I have a tendency to call s’s when I call them (no more land lines) so I do chat with them more (or they put on speaker phone). Will try to call the girls directly some as well.
I really really like my FSIL. Wish I saw him more!
I love both my DIL and my FDIL. (But, truth be told, I love one of them more than the other. I attribute that simply to how long I’ve known each of them.) Goodness – they’re going to be in my life forever. And they make my sons happy. What’s not to love??
I like my FSIL because my daughter loves him. We get along well and he is a caring person. On few occasions when I was annoyed with him, I told my daughter. He is not a morning person, there were times when we had to get up early to get some where, he was grumpy and unpleasant. I told my daughter to tell him to cut it out - just keep to himself until he could face the world.
IMO - how well our FS/DIL get along with us is very much dependent on how much our kid wants him/her to like us and how well we treat him/her. When I first got married, I used to try to invite my in-laws over or go over to seem them, but my ex didn’t really care that much, so I stopped. I was doing it for him and if he didn’t care to see his parents, I didn’t either. On the other hand, it was important for me to see my family, so I made a point of seeing them often. I am sure my ex’s family thought it was me who didn’t want to spend time with them.
I coached my ex a lot in the beginning on how to interact with my parents, and I see my kids doing the same with their SOs now.
Dont like daughter or future sil 25 and 30 respectively. If the rest of the kiddos turn out like them Ill be lets say “unhappy”.
DiL believes she’s our favorite child, according to what she’s said to us and in front of us, as well as what we’ve accidentally overheard. I’m okay with her thinking that since it makes S happy.
My daughter just got married in July so this is admittedly new for us, but I loved the man she chose from the first minute I met him. He is a good man who adores & cherishes her, protective, honoring, kind, loving. She responds to this by wanting to be the best wife she can be. I love watching them together and have such a peace knowing they are so happy. My husband & I don’t really think of him as our son-IN-LAW at all, but rather a member of our own family and treat him as such. He fits right in!!
I love love love my FSIL. He is an absolute gem. Couldn’t be more perfect for my daughter. My other D is probably getting engaged soon, and I like the gentleman. I don’t know him well, though, because we have known the other guy for more than a decade. I don’t think we will ever have quite the close relationship with the second guy because we saw FSIL grow up and were part of many life events since his parents are, frankly, losers. The second guy is everything anyone could want in a son-in-law, so I have no complaints at all.
My son is not dating anyone now. I’m sure when he does bring a girl home I will be pleasant and kind, but I will hate her with a raging passion! (Kidding. Maybe.)
So far I just have a DIL - I love her for her and I love her for balancing my son. They dated for nearly 6 years before getting married so we had lots of time to get to know her. Also love her family - it’s like extended family now for all of us! Her dad is not in the picture and hasn’t been for a long, long time so my H is like the father she never really had - my H adores her and he is not always easy to warm up to people.
This weekend I will meet for the first time D1’s new boyfriend. And she is meeting his parents for the first time this weekend as well. She told me they have joked that this is “parent’s weekend” just like in college. I asked if we will get free tshirts. 
I love my DIL who’s been very good for my S. She told us she loved us for the first time when we were leaving after visiting them in May. It was a pleasant surprise. Do we spend time on the phone talking to each other? No. Most communication goes through my S, altho she and I email each other occasionally. She is very close to her mother and 3 sisters, so I’m far down the list of people she’d communicate with.
Of course, I’m sure we can all agree that no daughter- or son-in-law can ever be good enough for our children. 
^Oh, I think I would be thrilled with any DIL for my oldest son! I doubt he will ever get married.
My middle son, the one in Lebanon, is seriously dating a girl from Syria. She sounds like a sweetheart. I know S is thinking she may be “the one.” I hope we can meet her when we visit S next June.
Actually I don’t think that at all @VeryHappy - a great DIL or SIL makes my S or D more whole in most every way!
Putting the shoe on the other foot, I would hate for any in-law to think that my S or D could never be good enough for THEIR S or D!
I have embraced all the significant others my 2 kids have had- until things went south. I really liked my son in law for many of the 12 years he’s been in our lives (married 9 1/2 years) but I’ve cooled off in the last couple of years. I didn’t let it show and I kept my mouth shut. Unfortunately, my fears were real and he has turned out to be a despicable person. He blindsided my lovely daughter by filing for divorce a couple of months ago, and it’s just devastating for her. Murder is not out of the question…
WildChild isn’t dating right now, thankfully.