<p>So I was never a really hard worker in high school. I mean, academically. I worked pretty hard at the job I had, but in terms of school work I just sorta winged it. I’m paying for it now (I once had aspirations of MIT or Stanford) but whatever. </p>
<p>I get to college and not much has changed in me. I find it very hard to motivate myself to do my school work. I have zero idea of what I want to major in (right now I’m in undeclared engineering but I’ve realized I’m not very good with advanced level math) or what I want to be in life. So it feels like I’m just taking classes for the sake of taking them. I know I’ve got gen ed requirements regardless, but at least if I knew what I wanted to major in then I’d feel like I was working toward that major.</p>
<p>I’m also having trouble making really good friends. I’ve got a fair few buddies who I like to party with and stuff, but really the only person I’m comfortable with talking about what’s really bugging me is my roommate (to an extent). I mean, I’ve got my best friends from high school and girlfriend but they’re not always there to talk :/</p>
<p>SO… I don’t think I’m ready for this yet. I feel like I need time to mature and take work more seriously, as well as get at least an idea of what I want to do so that I feel like I’m actually working toward something. Maybe study at a CC for my gen eds and then transfer to a good four-year, or take a year to just see the country. I don’t know.</p>
<p>Thoughts?</p>
<p>As for making really good friends, that takes time to build. If someone wants to be your best friend after knowing them for a month or two, they’re probably fake and the friendship will probably fade. You’re close to your roomate, that’s a good start and that’s more than I have with my roomie. </p>
<p>And I think it’s normal to not know your major yet as a freshman. If you’re really nervous, talk to your advisor, maybe he/she will have some kind of career match personality test that can give you ideas of what you might be interested in.</p>
<p>Hang in there! What college are you at?</p>
<p>u don’t…u just go off & see if u survive it or not ;)</p>
<p>I highly recommend going to a CC in your situation, if you can go back to one now without losing much money. You will gain a LOT of maturity there, even if just because it buys you some time to grow up, and you’ll be able to do much better at a 4 year if you are actually ready to be there-- and to me it sounds like you’re not if you’re unmotivated and unwilling to do what you need to. You don’t need to know what you want to do, but you need to want to find out and be ready to challenge yourself to make that happen-- and you need to be doing your best in all your classes whether youre motivated to do so or not, if you don’t have the maturity to do that you don’t belong there yet. I went to a CC for financial reasons and when I did make it to a 4 year found myself leagues ahead of many of my peers, not to mention the incoming freshmen, in terms of taking academics seriously and general preparedness for the level of work.</p>