How hard is a social life after transferring?

Transfer Students
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<p>Well, I got in with minimal effort. Everything went smoothly and now all I need to do is schedule classes. I am probably doing this on Friday.</p>

<p>I do have one concern, and that is social life. I am coming in as a nobody to somewhere that I am assuming there are a bunch of pre-established peer groups. I do have one friend there from HS and have talked to him a few times in the past two weeks during the transfer process.</p>

<p>My background:</p>

<li><p>I don’t mean to brag, but I was pretty popular in high school. Nearly everyone knew me, and I had about 15 people who I was very close with. Most of my close friends were guys my age. Interestingly, most all of my close female friends were younger than me, one even by three years.</p></li>
<li><p>At Mount, I had one good buddy and a few who I knew not quite as well. A decent number of people knew me, but not as many as in HS.</p></li>
<li><p>There were no girls who I would have dated at Mount. Maybe I just never met the ones who were my type. Leaving HS, I was not in any kind of long-term relationship. I did really like one girl and I think she may have felt the same about me, but we were just really good friends who didn’t have the nerve to ask each other out. I have had girlfriends in the past, but none in the past year or so.</p></li>
<li><p>Going into LaRoche, I know I have one friend there. I also did some Facebook research and found someone who I haven’t really seen since 1995–I guess she falls under the “I don’t know you” category by now. The guy I know there was one of my close 15 from HS.</p></li>
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<p>So I know one guy, but what about the rest? Will they be accepting of this new dude who shows up from nowhere commuting in a 17-year old Acura? Will I be looked at as being a failure from somewhere? And as far as dating is concerned, will there be any singles left now that we are one semester in? Maybe I should just wait for the freshmen to come…one of my buddies from HS and I always found the best girls were younger than us. (Interestingly, he is single now–but that should change for him next year.)</p>

<p>Maybe if I joined the Bible Study I would find people?</p>

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<p>All I can say is I hope so. I’m transferring and I just pray pray pray that I have more of a social life where I’m going than I do at the school I’m at right now. Except I’m a wallflower, and nobody knows me at this school, but since it’s a CC everyone commutes anyway, but I am also worried about the “pre-established peer groups” too. I don’t think that everyone is going to be paired off by the end of this semester. That just sounds…kind of ridiculous (and like a busy bunch of people!) </p>

<p>As for the joining a Bible Study, I’d join if that’s what interests YOU, not if that’s just a way to meet people. How are you going to be able to sit through it if you don’t find it interesting? If it interests you than by all means, go for it. My parents actually gave me some advice, saying that if you want to meet people in college: get a job. You become friends with people you work with. </p>

<p>I don’t think people will see you as a failure, and if they do, well, they are stupid. Transferring does not equal failure. I think you should just try to be friendly, smile and talk to everyone you meet, and join in things that interest you. Try to pair up with that one guy you know and see if he can introduce you to other people there, and Facebook is a great resource.</p>

<p>Hopefully I helped you out a little bit :slight_smile: Sorry if I didn’t :-/ And by the way, Good Luck!:-)</p>

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<p>If you guys can discuss on this forum, you can discuss in real life. Go find people and talk! Hah…I’m just kidding, probably too simplistic of an answer, eh?</p>