--> how LONG does it take for a friendship to truly develop?

[baller4lyfe]

<p>what would you say?</p>

<p>you meet someone. so far you've just hung out a couple of times with him. </p>

<p>already slept over with him @ his brother's apartment, chilled at his house. this done within the first 2 months you've known him.</p>

<p>now roughly how LONG would a friendship generally take to develop and remain authentic.</p>

<h2>much thanks..</h2>

<p>OH YEAH:</p>

<p>i've read several places that you should never put too much emphasis on another person to make you feel "delighted" or "content" inside -- that you should rely on yourself to be happy.</p>

<p>well, would you agree with the above notion?</p>

<p>sure, you can always make yourself happy, but wouldn't life be EXTREMELY BORING if you didn't have another person?</p>

<p>what do you think...</p>

[cryptic_fate]

<p>for me it takes less than 10 minutes.</p>

[ctrain890]

<p>And I'm sure in those 10 minutes you get to know them sooo well...</p>

[sarorah]

<p>It could take 2 minutes for someone to meet and really like the person. It could take 2 hours. It could take 15 years.
Stuff like that happens you know, when you meet someone in an extremely short amount of time and like them a lot. Sorta like fate. You were meant to meet the person. That's where you come up with those bizarre stories of "I meant him on a train when I asked for directions and we started talking and soon we became inseparable!"</p>

<p>And I think if you lived all by yourself and had no friends, no spouse, no nothing, then you would be very lonely. Some people do need another person to talk to, to be content with. It's in their personality or they just go absolutely crazy.</p>

<p>This is such a strange topic.</p>

[ctrain890]

<p>Yes, but just because you get on very well with someone after a couple minutes, it doesn't necessarily make them your "friend." It's just as likely that you'll be "friends" with someone for a while, but as you get to know them beyond a superficial level, you grow apart.</p>

<p>I agree, it's a strange topic.</p>

[celebrian25]

<p>My best friend and me almost immediately clicked, it really was just like that <em>snaps fingers</em>, but I haven't known I was friends with anyone else so fast. I really have to spend a few months gettting to know them before I know. Really know.</p>

[eva10127]

<p>when I feel I know the person and understand the person, get along with the person, and TRUST the person......it will take me a month or so.</p>

[Spanks]

<p>my ex-boyfriend, or current best friend, and I clicked pretty soon after we met...we were on the phone passing out at 2 am every night after about a month of knowing each other...then he asked me out 2 months later, ruining our friendship and staring an interesting 3 year relationship, lol...we're just friends now, for the most part</p>

[kitkattail]

<p>For me? Years and years. I'm friendly and sociable with most people, and I have all sorts of intense and fascinating conversations with any number of people, but I somehow it still feels like the friendship is on the surface only. I guess I've had so many "let's share our life stories and sob" type conversations that I'm kind of cynical about them now: I view them as nothing more than entertaining way to spend a few hours. They usually don't mean that much in the long run; your friendship with that person will usually fade regardless.</p>

<p>I don't really know what it takes for friendships to develop into something more than that (not romantically more, but more trust-wise). It's only happened twice for me. But it has a lot to do with having known the person for so long that you've weathered the volatile infatuation stage (where you talk and talk and are fascinated with each other) and just feel generally comfortable.</p>

<p>Also, relying on yourself to be happy doesn't mean that you don't have friends that make you happy too. It just means that you don't depend on them for it. There's a big difference. So yes, I agree with it. You feel warm and fuzzy around people all the time, and they can be fun, but for me at least, the moments when I'm most happy strike when I'm by myself and I can just feel the happiness surging silently within me. The warm/fuzzy people feeling is nice but usually transient and subject to doubt (after the feeling fades, you start to wonder, "Was it really such a great evening? Did I perhaps make a fool of myself? Does that person really like me, or is he faking it?"), but happiness you get from yourself only is yours completely and truly, and nothing can wrench it away from you. You're the only witness to it, so you're the only one who matters.</p>

[NoFX]

<p>I have my 7 best friends (don't have a BEST friend) and then I have my friends and then I have my aquintances.
I can only get along with people wit humor and people who are independent. I cant stand people who try to be other people and people who are dead serious and the HARD-OUT-christians with very very very very very very strong, stubborn beliefs.
I cant have a normal conversation with any of the categorised above...it's too hard.. we just dont get along..</p>

<p>It doesn't take long for me to make friends i think. I think I become friends with people when I go out (shopping, movies, eating, party) with them.. because when I do stuff outside of school time with people, I begin to know them well.</p>

[IlliniJBravoEcho]

<p>My best friend and I knew each other before we became good friends. And we only became good friends through different circumstances (NHS rejectee and he was kicked-out, same adv chem/biochem class). I also have very good friends that I have made at college that I would consider to be very good friends. It doesn't take much to get on my good side so I have a lot of friends. Only a few are truly near and dear to my heart.</p>

<p>But simply a friendship, it can take as little time as just a simple exchange. One of my good friends now only started talking to me over Winter Break. It is strange how friendships can blossom out of nowhere from people you don't expect. And how some never take off at all. But all it usually takes is a good convo for me to consider someone a good friend. I don't know why that is but when I look at who I consider a friend, I usually have had a longer convo with them 1-on-1. I don't really know why that is.</p>

[starman]

<p>Friends are meaningless, you just use them to get ahead, and when you don't need them anymore, you toss them away.</p>

<p>In the end, all that really matters is sex, food, and a house. You don't need a friend to for those things, all you need is a good buck. </p>

<p>Useless.</p>

[cryptic_fate]

<p>I totally agree, starman. And what you said is a fact, unfortunately.</p>

[IlliniJBravoEcho]

<p>Well at least I'm not lonely.</p>

[baller4lyfe]

<p>bros before hos</p>

<p>chicks before dic**</p>

<p>====</p>

<p>friends fo' LIFE.</p>

[starman]

<p>Right, says "baller4lyfe".</p>

[celebrian25]

<p>Friends don't serve a true purpose. That's what makes them special. Sometimes I think the people here are so into only doing things that serve a purpose, they forget about the other (more) important things</p>

[Avalon]

<p>Well said, Celebrian25. :)</p>

[ElCommando]

<p>"Friends are meaningless, you just use them to get ahead, and when you don't need them anymore, you toss them away."</p>

<p>RIIIIIIGHT. I wonder if you even had any friends in the first place LOL.</p>

<p>"bros before hos"</p>

<p>Well idk about that lol but Id say friends are pretty important.</p>

<p>It was the opposite for me Celebrian I thought my best friend was a loser for the longest time (until he became my friend) and since then I have moved from Virginia to California.</p>

[celebrian25]

<p>My best friend and I are completely opposite and alike at the same time</p>