While I agree with you that Thanksgiving seems like a long time, I’m guessing your parents fear that if it’s less time, both of you will remain more invested in your relationship than in settling into life in your new schools.
Many years ago, a friend’s D went off to school as an athletic recruit. She spent much of her free time talking with her high school BF and only realized a bit into the senester that having been less than fully present had cost her the easy opportunities to meet people beyond her team, and that she hadn’t bonded that well with her teammates either. Although she spent time with them, she was having and sharing her new college experience with her BF, not them.
Clearly, you 2 can stay in touch the way the same way - and with the same risks - but your parents are probably thinking that allowing you to “close the virtual gap” by seeing each other at 7 weeks and planning that weekend before then might further isolate you in your new schools.
I might ask them a bit more about why they want to enforce the wait and see if there is some compromise that addresses their concern - a visit for a day, coming home for a weekend to see each other. You sound reasonable and mature.
You are going to college to explore independence. I don’t think your parents should be dictating what you should do, with regards to sleep schedules, homework schedules or relationships etc. They have to let you go and let you figure things out for yourself. You can take a day trip at the weekend to visit your boyfriend. I don’t understand why it is so wrong. You will figure out if your relationship survives over the course of college, on your own terms.
They were used as examples. I was simply saying that you are going to college to be independent and all should be under your control - your relationship schedule should be under your control just like sleep schedules and homework schedules…
If it’s meant to last, it will. But keep an open mind.
You grow a LOT during college if you allow it. In independence, thinking, values. Like growth spurts between 18-21 and again 24-28. Both of you need to allow for the chance you may meet someone who is better suited to you. Not necessarily going to happen that you don’t stay together but don’t tie yourself down right now. You’ve got a lot ahead of you and new experiences will just make you stronger.
What I strongly encourage is staying at your respective campuses to make them your “home”. That takes some time–classes, making friends, participating in events. Don’t go running home or off to see each other over going out with friends. It’s especially important at the beginning of school. So at least Thanksgiving.
A mature, healthy relationship would not ask the other person to limit experiences or meeting of new people. Asking another person to remain stagnant or to not grow is unrealistic.