<p>When you get a likely letter (in the ivies), or an NLI (National Letter of Intent) at D1’s and D2’s you have a binding commitment (actually the likely isn’t binding, buts it’s reported to be as good as gold). Which means that until you get that, you have nothing!</p>
<p>But, that is a very cynical view of the process!</p>
<p>In reading a coachs level of interest, for D1s a real signal is the offer of an Official Visit. An Official Visit is a visit to a school on the schools nickel (or dime with inflation). All transportation costs, food and lodging are taken care of for the recruit. (For parents, the school will not pay for transportation; may reimburse for mileage; may pay for lodging; not for most food.)</p>
<p>This is a serious expression of interest but not the end game. The reason the OV is a critical milestone is that a school has a limited budget for OVs and, by NCAA rules, a limited number of OVs which can be given. So, if you get and go on an OV you have made it to the semi-finals of the beauty contest.</p>
<p>But OV only means you have made it to the semi-finals!</p>
<p>In the sport I am most familiar, the NCAA allows d1s 25 OVs; one IVY was bringing in 12 players for OVs (in their first hectic month) for 6 7 roster sports (backed by Likely letters). That school had identified 25 players for those 6 - 7 spots. So, the winnowing process went from literally 1,000s, to hundreds at the end of the junior year, to dozens by the end of summer of senior year, to 25 by labor day, to 12 first wave OVs, looking for 6 7 players at the end of recruiting. </p>
<p>(True story and confession: we received the most wonderful e-mail early in Junior year from a school that was beyond our wildest expectations, dreams, wishes, hopes, desires, etc… It was personal and talked about some very specific events which could only mean that the author had seen S play numerous times. [Unlike the mass mailings for camps, and other stuff we had received.] I printed a copy and proudly bored my closest friends until the piece of paper became tattered. One day, in boring yet another friend [whose S was more gifted athletically but not so academically] he reached into his wallet and pulled out the same e-mail his son received [some words were changed to make very specific references to his Ss exploits! We had a good , and sad, laugh and admired the recruiting coachs methods.)</p>
<p>Now, how do you know where you stand? Be honest brutally honest --with yourself. For objective sports (track and swimming), are your times today better than the others they are recruiting? For subjective sports (like baseball), can you throw harder today than the others they are recruiting? Not will I get better; the question is am I good enough now.</p>
<p>A player and the parent must be brutally honest if a happy result will be reached. If you are not brutally honest, only bad surprises await you in this process. Brutal honesty means that you look at your player in the here and now; not in the hoped for future (will he grow? Will she develop? Etc.) Coaches are not in the business of developing they are in the business of winning now, not in four years. Slots on these teams are in such short supply that projects are passed over in favor of those who can bring it to the table NOW.)</p>
<p>Recruiting coaches are great smoozers! The ones that are not are left in the dust.
Now, S was always honest with the coaches. He let them know where their universities stood on his list. Some coaches went away (they go away by not calling any more there is not any announcement of their departure); some stayed and worked harder (but always with the same platitudes). But, while he always knew where the universities stood on his list, he really did not know with any degree of certainty where he stood on their list.</p>
<p>The end is interesting (and has been addressed on another thread). It has ended for us before the real end has actually arrived. In our case, he committed and finished the app almost simultaneously, and now we are in the never-never land of waiting for a LL. For d3s, its really hard for an athlete who goes RD – at least with EA and ED you know where you stand early. For RD, some schools refuse to let you know and you twist in the wind until the end. Had a friends D who twisted to death at Wash U; she had been assured to the bitter end that she was good as gold!</p>
<p>To Pacheights point, I would not even trust the words you are my number 1 recruit. First, once a recruiting coach gets a verbal, that player is no longer considered a recruit by the coach (they have committed and, hence, are not being recruited by the school any longer). This means that during the course of the recruiting season, many number 1s come and go and who would make a commitment to a school if he/she was told you are my back-up choice. Second, one of the recruiting coachs goals is to get the recruit to stop looking elsewhere his/her goal is not to be your advocate and look out for you interests during the process.</p>
<p>Until you have something, you have nothing.</p>