I’d say, find some matches and safeties that are “acceptable” to your parents. They should be realistic. Then you’ve added balance. Don’t dismiss ASU so easily. It would be savvy to look deeply at the strengths of the program, (including further research and internship opps,) not just what your parents think they know about the school. The idea isn’t the prestige of the window decal you can display, but the solid ways in which you can be empowered, tested and stretched, and grow. You may need to present those strengths to them, glass half full.
UCB and UCLA are holistic. What Gumbymom quoted should already be familiar to anyone digging deep. But in holistic, among the most or very competitive colleges, it all matters. That’s the rub.
A chunk of your ECs (with titles) started this past semester. You did drop a couple from 9th. You need to be able to stand back and say, “Is this what they want,” what they will find a reliable show of both depth and breadth. And the latter distictly means: not all STEM.
And that’s on top of the academic reliability.
Do you actually have a research history with college profs, so far? Earlier, I thought this was still a plan.