I called my parents every day (usually on the way to work). Short calls, longer on weekends. Worked very well - mom was truly my best friend and we could talk about anything and everything. Dad used to pop on for a couple of minutes just to say hi, sometimes would stay longer. Miss that very very much since I lost both of them a few months ago. Mornings are still very difficult for me without that morning call.
D is 28 and lives 10 hours away. Residency doesn’t give her much time. She texts pretty regularly - at least once in a couple of days. Tries to call whenever she has time - sometimes, it is a quick call as she is driving home, sometimes a longer one when she’s home. S is 23 and lives very close by. He texts infrequently - I keep up with his life using social media! He used to be really bad at calling/texting when he was in college - it has improved some now that he’s working. Doesn’t call often but if we do want to talk to him and tell him that, he’ll call.
Do I wish they checked in more regularly? Yes - I’d love the weekly dinner ala Blue Bloods - but what we have now works for me. H would love them to call more often - he is the one that picks up the phone and face times the kids when he’s bored/missing them!