My Daughter (31) lives in our town, and has just gone through a bad breakup. She moved back with us for 2 months whilst searching for a place, during which time I became super attached to her cat. She calls/texts almost every day. I feel relieved when I don’t hear from her because that’s a sign that she’s ok. I enjoy the cat videos, though, haha.
My son (27) lives a little over an hour away, and we don’t talk or text very often. However, we have a group family text, and he participates pretty frequently. He shares when he’s accomplished something that he’s proud of, or something ridiculous that we can all laugh at. He came to visit this weekend and we talked in person for hours.
My son and daughter communicate with each other a lot, it seems, although that might be initiated from my daughter, mostly.
I would imagine that if either of them were married and had children that they’d be too involved to communicate, unless for advice or help. But I don’t know, because at that point in my life, I’d talk to my mother every day, sharing minutiae. She was a great listener, as I always try to be.
This question brings up a memory from my son’s freshman year of college when his HS girlfriend dumped him. Up until then, he didn’t call me. OK, maybe once or twice. I can still hear his trembling voice in my head, poor kid.
I don’t think frequency is necessarily a measure of connection if the communications are meaningful or just plain fun.
Oh, and my husband used to talk to his mom every Sunday for about an hour.